Archives For August 2010

Today the phone rang, and I found myself listening to another mother’s heartbreaking story.  I recognized the particular distress in the caller's voice because I have known the horror of something like what she’s going though.  The similarities of our stories chilled me.  But I caution you: don’t just browse this for the juicy tidbits and then go on with your life.  If you take nothing else with you from this post, realize this: sexual abuse is not rare, but rather much more common than you think.

Two years ago this mother had discovered an inappropriate relationship developing  between her 16 year old daughter Continue reading “Another Day, Another Family’s Nightmare” »

Today I'm saying “Bravo” to Charles Colson for calling our attention to "sexual obesity." It’s a term for a cultural phenomenon coined by Mary Eberstadt in her article The Weight of Smut. Kids are gobbling up pornographic images like Continue reading “Parents, Do You Know What Your Kids are Consuming?” »


Kalyn and Adam

By Lisa Cherry

The candles are put away; the rented equipment is returned; the leftovers have even been eaten.  And now I am filled with memories of the launch of my first born baby girl.  She is now not only a daughter but also a wife.  Before her lies the greatest adventure imaginable:

Learning to join her every day with the man she is called beside.  I am so honored to have spent the last 23 years helping to prepare her for this big event.

In the last few days I have caught myself heading up to her room only to have stopped short when I realized she wouldn't be there.  A tear was tempted to fill my eye but almost instantaneously, I was overcome with a big grin.  She has flown out of the nest victoriously!  And my God gets all the glory!

I remember the awful season of her youth when she was rebelling so hard against us that my mind could not even conceive of seeing her safely down the aisle.  She wanted whatever boy that we did not.  She wanted every choice that we said was dangerous.  And my mother's heart was broken.  "Where was the little girl of my dreams?" I cried.  How could she be crushing not only her future but my own hopes as well?  Could she not see the foolishness of her ways?  Could she not trust that her parents only wanted the best for her?  Why did my teen parenting experience have to be such a nightmare?  What did I ever do to deserve this?

But I also remember the day she called with the incredible news.  God had touched her heart!   "Daddy, I don't want to run away from you.  I want to be given away.  Can I come home?"  Our tears flowed like fountains.   Our prayers had been answered!  Our several year battle was won!

I received an email today from another bleeding mama.  Standing by helplessly waiting for her child to come to his senses.  Anguishing that he was too large to spank and too young to abandon.   Caught in a mother's pain and waiting for the Father's hope.


Kalyn and Lisa

What do I have to say to my sisters (and brothers) locked up in teen madness?   DO NOT GIVE UP!

This God we serve hears your cries and He is working on your behalf!  How many times I was tempted to give up--or at least alter the vision.  I remember even thinking maybe I should just hope she will marry someone "nice."  But my God was still working His plan!

Our children are like arrows in the hands of a warrior.  As they launch from our homes, He intends them to hit the target He designed and planned for their life.  My job is to stay in my place of authority and discipleship over their lives until His Kingdom plan comes.

Saturday, Kalyn's Daddy had the privilege of giving her away.  And now Kalyn and Adam are one.   Called together to take the gospel to the nations.  Equipped with the power of the Holy Spirit to establish a new home and a new lineage for Him.  His plans WERE UNSHAKABLE—even through sexual abuse, teenage rebellion, depression, and more.  I have a personal revelation of Isaiah 54:17 which says "No weapon formed against us shall prosper..."

Are you embroiled in battle for the heart and soul of your kids?  Are you standing with a friend or relative in battle? Have there been so many weapons formed against you that you are weary and wounded?   Hold on to God's unchanging word that He watches over to perform.  He is faithful and He will bring you and your child through to the other side.  Listen for His battle plan and obey.  His plans are to give you and your child a future and a hope!


Kalyn and Doug

( I invite you to get a hold of the scripture prayer guide that God had me praying over Kalyn.  It was an amazing key to the successful launch last weekend!  And I am now praying it on behalf of my other kids today!  Go to to order your copy.)

This has been a big week.  So here is the whole of my post:   KALYN IS GETTING MARRIED  SATURDAY!!  What a joy to share in the excitement of Continue reading “It’s No Secret–Tomorrow is Kalyn’s Wedding Day” »