Parenting Tip: Honor Your Father and Mother

Lisa Cherry —  May 2, 2011

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Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise—“that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” Ephesians 6: 1-3

I dare say this one scripture passage surely has to be in the top ten list of every Sunday school curriculum in North America.

What parent or Sunday school teacher doesn’t want that one drilled into the hearts of kids! Everyone wants a long, good life.

But are these three verses set apart just for the kids? Isn’t this great promise a quote from the Ten Commandments, which of course have no age limit?

Years ago, God dealt with me quite sternly about the truth of these verses. Honoring our parents is a lifelong ministry of every believer!

If we want things to go well in our frontline homes, if we want peace in our relationships with our family members, and if we want to live long, we must recapture God’s heart of honor.

You can honor someone even if you don’t agree with them or approve of their choices. Did you know you can honor a parent who is flawed and sinful, even if you cannot have all the intimate joys of a close relationship? That is good news for so many of us with war-torn generational messes.

What we do with our tongues will reveal the honor or dishonor lodged in our own hearts.

Do you need help to find God’s strength to honor your parents? I commend to you the work of Dennis Rainey, President and Co-founder of FamilyLife. His book The Best Gift You Can Ever Give Your Parents explains how you can express your honor for your parents by writing a tribute to them. You can find several of Dennis’ articles about this here.

Another great resource is John Bevere’s book Honor’s Reward. John also has several podcasts on this topic.

When Doug and I grew in this revelation a few years ago, I sensed the lid holding back our children’s honor of us lifted to new levels. The result: greater prosperity and peace.

As you look toward Mothers’ Day this coming Sunday, and Fathers’ Day next month, I urge to do more than just give flowers, a card or a gift.   Meditate on Ephesians 6: 1-3, take God at His word, and honor your father and mother.

Image courtesy of Michaela Kobyakov

Linked to Honoring Parents.

  • quaintscribbles

    Great article. This is something I have to work at and am always teaching my daughter.


    Jackie who stays busy homeschooling a high-spirited 14 year old dyslexic sweetie.

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    • frontlinemama

      Modeling this for our children is real life learning, isn't it?

  • Naomi Ruth

    Thanks so much for sharing this excellent article on the Forgotten Command! Bless you, Naomi Ruth