Don’t Look the Other Way

Lisa Cherry —  February 6, 2012

By Lisa Cherry

Another horror story of child abuse appeared in the news last week.  A California teacher, previously accused, went on to commit unspeakable acts during his 30 years in the classroom.  I have to wonder how many people around him knew something was wrong, and looked the other way?

Believers, please pray for these children and for their families.  Their pain is severe, and they desperately need healing.

We must become more skilled in recognizing the symptoms of the suffering and the behavior of predators, and to learn what to do so that we can act confidently and quickly to stop the pain.

I’ve previously mentioned TAALK Tips, a daily email to educate adults to prevent and recognize child sexual abuse and take proactive steps to protect children.   Please subscribe today, and ask the Lord to make you alert to any situations that need intervention.

  • http://gravatar.com/freetolive10 freetolive

    As a mother of 5 children, 2 who were sexuarlly abused (that I know of) I have been the one that looked the other way. My mother was abused by her foster father then then by her biological father from the age of 8 until she ran away at 18. She has shared this information with me in detail for as far back as I can remember.

    My sister was molested by my uncle at age 12 while I was lying next to her. my parent's friend entered our home from a window one night with the intentions of assaulting me. They only touched me as I lay trembling with my infant sister laying next to me. Even now I see myself looking the other way about what happened to me. Because I don't have the horror stories that my mother has, I have never considered myself to have been sexually abused. Even while writing this reply I am remembering inappropriate things that were done to me by family members. I have many more stories I can tell but only one person was made to be accountable for what he did to us.

    I remember asking my mother if I could go to court with her and my sister and my mother said I should not want to go to court to witness this horrible thing that was happening to my sister. Did she realize I had witnessed many things more horrible then a court room? My mother would tell me details of what happened to her by her fathers. Her Foster mother knew, her sisters knew, she told the child service worker, she told teachers. They all knew and they looked the other way.

    With this as the backdrop of my past I started a family and began raising my chilren. I started off very diligent about protecting my chilren. But everywhere I went and in every environment I dwelt in I was constantly told I was going overboard and was being too protective. So. slowly I let my guard down. Today I have 2 daughters that were sexually abused. I did the same thing my mother did. I looked the other way and hoped it would just go away. I removed my children from the environment and I removed the people from our lives. In one case because this person was a famiy member and the abuse had begun with "inappropriate conversations" I watched to make sure she was safe. Eventually this person would rape my daughter at the age of 17.

    I have harbored so much regret because I didn't protect my children. Even today I see the person with families that I know have young girls and I look the other way. I saw one of them at WalMart and I wanted to walk up to the person he was with so badly and tell them because I know that person has children. But, I didn't know how or what exactly to say. I want so bad to do something about what happened to my daughters but I don't know where to start. I want to do something, not because I have not forgiven, which I don't know if I have or not, but, because I want to cancel the generational curse that causes people in my family to look the other way. It takes courage and wisdom to face a predator and ignorance and fear to look the other way. Pray for me.

    • http://frontlinemama.wordpress.com frontlinemama

      I am so deeply moved by this comment. Perhaps I can find a way that more can see this! And yes, I am praying for you..and your children.