Goofy Apologies That Do Not Work—Cleaning Up After Messy Parenting Moments, Part 2

Lisa Cherry —  April 3, 2012

Image courtesy of Michael Lorenzo

By Lisa Cherry

Hey, if I did anything wrong, sorry about that.

I shouldn’t have done that….but you just made me so mad I couldn’t help it.

Sorry.

Why are you so upset anyway?  ...OK, I’m sorry!

Have you ever gotten an apology that you would rather not have received? In fact, it almost seemed to backfire on the situation making for more strife and pain. Such is the problem with half-hearted or ill-conceived words.

My young children have offered these kinds of responses to get out of sticky situations and disciplines. And it seems I can see right through them. So why would I think my children could not see through my own inadequate efforts of apology?

Reckless words pierce like a sword… (Proverbs 12:18) When we accidentally pierce our own children, are we skilled at the second half of that verse which says …but the tongue of the wise brings healing?

I ran across a powerful book by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas called The Five Languages of Apology. Wow, am I under some conviction! I thought I was good at making amends, but I discovered I have much need of improvement.

How about you? Are you saying too many goofy things to clean up your parenting errors?

More of what I am learning coming up!

Read Part 1 of Cleaning Up After Messy Parenting Moments.

The Straightened Path

 

  • http://honorparents.wordpress.com Gail

    You are so right..."I'm sorry" doesn't mean we're sorry when accompanied by excuses or conditions.

  • http://www.theresomethingdifferent.blogspot.com Alecia

    So true! I have to make sure my body language and facial expressions match up with the words, or else the apology is meaningless.

    • http://frontlinemama.wordpress.com frontlinemama

      SOOOOO true!!!

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  • http://passionateandcreativehomemaking.blogspot.com/ Angell

    Thanks for linking up with me! I hope to "see" you tomorrow hehe

    • http://frontlinemama.wordpress.com frontlinemama

      Angell, you are so kind to host Beautiful Thursdays Link up. Thanks for stopping by.