My last post hit a nerve worldwide. I am not surprised. While researching our new book Unmask the Predators, I discovered a most horrifying statistic. According to a recently released study, 11% of American teenage girls report homosexual girlfriend relationships. I was shocked!
Perhaps we should take a deeper look at how Christian moms should respond to this type of question: Mom, would you love me if I am bisexual?
Why does a child frame a question with a back door question of our love? Sometimes they are shifting the weight of the problem over to a plane that will hit our mama button and make us feel sorry for them.
But sometimes they are struggling to comprehend a mature view of love—a 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 kind of love. The kind of love our Father has for us that is not dependent on performance or appearance. Our ability to communicate that kind of love to our kids is vital.
However, our fallen world has been infiltrated by sexual predator forces that are influencing our thinking. The question Would you love me if... has polluted and even hijacked the real questions at hand.
The question Mom, would you still love me if you found out I was the one that broke the window? should result in a quick reassurance of parental love, followed by a return to the issue at hand...the broken glass.
When our kids or anyone else throws out a question of "love," we must be wise as parents to unpack it. Taken at face value it is either childish or manipulative with power to hit on a politically correct button that we as mature adults need to recognize. But folks, we cannot give into this immature reasoning any more than we can give into the glass-breaking child who needs to know we love him enough to make him pay for his damages!
Love does not equal acceptance of all behavior and agreement with all choices. Love does not equal never having to say "NO!" This mother needed to express a deep love for this child not only by her emotional words of assurance but also by her protective leadership, for the predator forces were poised to beguile her young.
If my child (and a 13 year old is a child!) was hanging out with people thinking about and talking about robbing a bank because they believed they were "thieves," I would remove my child from their presence. Even if no one had robbed a bank yet!
I would know that the talk, imaginations and strategizing could pose a threat to my child's maturity. What a ridiculous comparison, you say? Well, is it? The statistics of homosexual experimentation are rising as the public school and societal indoctrination of "self-discovered sexual orientation" have become the sanctioned norm.
How did we arrive at our modern beliefs about homosexuality as it relates to our children??? Perhaps it is because of the implication that this poor girl who was thinking she might be "bisexual" was actually born that way. If that were true, then any good Mama would love and accept her for who she really is. Right? Tomorrow we are going to hit that question straight on. But today as we focus on this word "love," let's not allow the predator forces to back us into a corner with the word God redefined.
For years, my daughter accused me of not "loving her" when I would not let her run into sexual ruin. The sexual abuse in Kalyn's life was not "love"—though she thought it was at the time! And if I had accepted all the ways she wanted to express her "new identity," she would not be where she is today—happily married to a Godly man and raising their own little girl to serve Jesus.
I had to say "No!" to the perversions coming against her while radically loving her with the love of the Father. Now she thanks us for our "NOs."
This is hard work protecting our kids in a world gone mad. I beg you: Do not naively suppose like I did that your family is immune from these sexual issues. The predator forces are working overtime and our families are in danger.
PLEASE, will you consider getting a copy of our new book Unmask the Predators? I want your family to be prepared before the battle. Request it to be added to your local community library. We must get the word out! (By the way...our family makes no personal profit off any of our resources for sale. Funds are used by Frontline Family Ministries to help others avoid the path of disaster!)
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