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Many of us have been pondering the young teen's question that no Christian mom would want to field...Mom, Would You Love Me If...
....makes us want to rush to our child's aid to say "yes" before we ever hear the "IF."
But this time the question dropped like a bomb in my precious sister's gut. Bisexual?
When I heard that question, it reminded me of a very personal moment in our family's history. Two years ago next month, we heard a doctor's words to my son and daughter-in-law that shook us to the core. Nathan and Tara, I believe your precious little second born has Down Syndrome.
This Grammy's heart was stunned as the air grew thick and stifling. Tears of grief dripped shamelessly down our cheeks as our breath was shallowed by shock. Our minds, fresh from the drama of birth and scarred from the trauma of their firstborn's genetic issue, were too raw to even reason much less talk.
But at that poignant moment, we faced the epic question: Would you love me if...?
I don't think any of us wanted to even voice this obvious question. But subconsciously and spontaneously a chorus of our love gushed forth from our inner souls.
Oh, little Ryan, you are so beautiful and perfect. Mommy loves you. Daddy loves you. Grampy loves you. Grammy loves you. We did not love that little guy less, we loved him more.
Love a child struggling with issues of sexual identity issues who is caught up in the flood of dissipation? You bet.
But how does my grandchild’s genetic issue compare with another child’s “coming out of the closet?” Contrary to widespread indoctrination, homosexuality has not been proven to have a genetic origin. Check out this study about it.
They are not the same, but can you see how the issue of genetics floods the emotions of the situation much like in our scene at the hospital?
Even IF someone were to prove a genetic predisposition, that still does not change our response. Just because something is "genetic," it does not make it healthy or normal!
Homosexuality is not normal. It is not safe. It is not God's design for His children. Those trapped in its lifestyle need God's deliverance and healing. They will need our love and our help.
How dangerous it becomes when we rename something abnormal as the new "normal." It opens the door for confusion and grief. Parents, we will need to avoid this temptation.
What would happen if in our "love" for Ryan, we just decided to take a denial approach and rename Trisomy 13 as the new norm? No one would take him to speech and physical therapy. No one would do extra checks on his heart. We would just leave him as he is. Clearly, that is not the love response.
Somehow the issue of taking God's word on homosexuality has been renamed as "hate." How sad and how preposterous. God is ready to heal and forgive. He is just looking for His people to come out of the confusion and ask!
"Mom, would you love me if I was bisexual?"
Of course, my child. And I would get you some help for your problem! God has a holy and beautiful plan for your future. He created you in His image, as a sexual creature, illustrating His beauty. We will not give up until we help you experience His good plan.