Today, I want to dig deeper into the concepts behind the use of my title of last post, Predator Calling Cards.
When our daughter was sexually abused by a man that we could legally identify as a predator/abuser, I came face to face with the world of sexual perversion. Before the attack on her life, I was largely ignorant of the difficult-to-understand concept called "grooming."
Grooming is a legal and psychological term for the process that a perpetrator uses on his or her victim. Grooming is deeply deceptive and often subliminal at its onset.
The predator needs a way into victim’s world. So with words, a look, or a seemingly innocent touch, he slips in bits of information that, like a calling card, create a connection, a memory, a sense of legitimacy and familiarity.
In other words, the predator gains the trust of the victim and then very slowly moves the boundary of the relationship toward the sexual. S-l-o-w-l-y the desensitizing confuses the victim until he or she yields power and voluntarily performs acts that would normally be labeled as out of bounds. Kalyn still looks back in horror as to how she started in one spot and ended up in another participating in things that violated her own heart and soul.
It was more than "logic" that failed her. She was up against a spiritual force of darkness that was very real and powerful.
Moms, what happens in the world of sexual predators in the natural flesh is happening in the spiritual realm around us also. Our kids—and we—are being pulled into sexual practices and beliefs that are not pleasing to the Lord and actually dangerous to our lives and futures. And just like all tactics of warfare, the devil is using deception and "grooming" to do it!
Homosexuality is dangerous.
Now that is not a popular statement, but it is the Biblical view. Our loving God warned us of its dangerous attraction numerous times in His word.
It is not an identity.
It is not a birth anomaly.
Am I saying that every person who claims an identification as a homosexual or struggles with the issues of gender confusion is poised to attack children? Of course not!
But the lifestyle of homosexuality is dangerous, and we must not allow ourselves or our children to be "groomed" into thinking otherwise by well-intentioned people who do not know the scriptural view and have rested on faulty science.
Because I’m saying this, does that mean that I hate homosexuals? No, it doesn’t, and I don’t. And God doesn’t hate them either. But we are being groomed to agree with the notion that saying that homosexuality is wrong is hateful.
I have friends and acquaintances that have struggled with this issue of same sex attraction. My posture has been and always has been one of love. They are precious people needing the healing and deliverance of the Lord.
Real agape love is always truthful. See 1 Corinthians 13:6
Real love preserves people from danger. No matter what the cost.
Here is another illustration. If you go to college to study money systems, you will study both Micro-economics and Macro-economics. Micro-economics is the study of personal economics and how our personal household choices impact others economically for better or worse. Macro economics is focused on the things that impact nations, things such as supply and demand, federal reserve interest rates, government spending and borrowing. Both are important to understand because they are intimately interrelated.
In the world today we have Micro-predators (actual persons) and Macro-predators (global thoughts and forces). They are very much inter-related. Think about it. A child "macro-groomed" may more easily be "micro-groomed."
My Country Living magazine experience was aimed at moving my boundaries and the boundaries of my children. Was it actively connived in a board room to have that effect? I don't know. At one time I am sure it was strategized. Someone had to do the economic weighing of the risk to alienate certain customers. All businesses do this all the time. But if my commenter who said she had seen multiple articles featuring homosexuals in Country Living is correct (and I am sure she is would know), then no one needs a meeting anymore. The remaining subscribers have all just yielded and acquiesced.
I see evidence of a generation of young people who have been successfully groomed. What my grandmother's generation knew was clearly un-biblical and un-Godly, today's generation thinks is normal—even "biblical" homosexual behavior. Many would say "God made them to be this way." So, of course, they are now cooperating with the grooming. And 11%* of our teen girls report homosexual girlfriend relationships. That is what I call Macro-predator success.
Next time let's look at the word "judgment."
*There’s more on this and other interesting discussions on protecting our kids in my book Unmask the Predators: The Battle to Protect Your Child
By Lisa Cherry, Author of Unmask the Predators: The Battle to Protect Your Child
Image courtesy of Brian Lary
Read part 1 here.