Tough issues. They come up around our house all the time. Common things like....
Wrong movie requests
Corrections about clothing
Sibling putdowns between young teens arising from an insecure heart
Sloppy room maintenance
Failing to complete homework assignments
Sometimes these"hot button issues" are not all that intellectually challenging. I can see easily we have a problem. But confrontations with our kids can quickly ignite and escalate.
And I can sense the emotional fallout from my parent misstep could cost us dearly.
I've made my share of badly timed, angry confrontations over such issues. How about you?
After 28 years of mothering here are some of my best keys to success:
1. Listen to the Holy Spirit when he gives you a warning about some behavior in your child. But don't run your mouth the instant you hear the warning.
2. After the warning, comes the season of prayer. Ask specifically… God, what do I do?
3. Deal with your emotions with God before you approach your child. If I am wanting to change their behaviors because of MY embarrassment, I am out of order.
4. Think about dirty diapers. They were a nuisance.... but expected. Tough meetings with our kids are much the same way. Remember how we learned not to give our motions away to dirty diapers?
5. Ask God for apples of gold in settings of silver. Speaking the right words in the prepared timing will produce Godly results.
6. Mature out of the fantasy that every encounter with your child will feel pleasant. Do you feel good about difficult meetings with your boss?
7. Go ahead and look to the future...... when the problem is solved and the relationship feels better.
8. Determine in your heart before your meeting to express your love to your child. However, do not expect them to be ready to return positive emotion on the spot. Sometimes emotions take time.
9. Stick to God's plan. Once you've prayed, received His wisdom, and made your decision don't be distracted or fearful to act.
10. Laugh and celebrate the victory in advance! God causes us to triumph. This will be yet one more testimony of God's grace in your family.