Do I Need to Have the Porn Talk?

Lisa Cherry —  March 3, 2013 — 2 Comments

student_ipad_school - 143By Lisa Cherry

What a silly question! One trip through the mall to see Victoria bearing all her secrets and we, as parents, should know our answer.

Christian kids are being bombarded with images on a daily basis that would have been labeled "porn" when I was a kid.

So is it possible our Christian kids could be addicted to pornography viewing even while they are still sitting in our church pews and attending our youth groups? ABSOLUTELY!

 Hang out with a few youth leaders and pastors, or better yet, a few teens if you do not believe we have a problem. I hear the stories of pain weekly as parent after parent makes the "awful discovery."

 Let's consider a few facts:

 According to statistics found on xxxchurch.com......

Average age of first internet exposure to pornography is 11 years old

15- to 17-year-olds having multiple hardcore exposures: 80%

8- to 16-year-olds having viewed pornography online: 90% (most while doing homework).

Because we know that the adolescent brain is more easily addicted to pornographic imagery than even the adult brain…

Because we know that pornography can permanently damage healthy sexual response in marriage…

Because we know that pornography often leads to masturbation behaviors that, though they are known to be highly addictive, are touted as "normal and healthy" by many sex ed "experts”…

Because we know that pornography causes a deep sense of shame in the Christian's life that can cause a withdrawal from God…

Because we know that teens and kids hate to feel like a failure in the eyes of their parents, so they will rarely ask us for help if they have a problem…

Because many teenage girls—not just teenage boys—struggle with pornography that often leads them to a lifestyle of promiscuity…

Because we know the devil would love to deceive us that our kids "would never get involved in something we told them not to do…”

WE WILL NEED A PLAN!

What plan will be right for you and your family? That is between you and the Holy Spirit to determine. But I encourage you: Take the time, effort and guts to get a plan. And do it right away.

Here are some great sites that are packed with information and ideas to help us.

Many of their articles are shocking. However, I would rather be shocked by someone else's story that raises my awareness than be shocked by my own tragic discovery!

 xxxChurch.com

Breaking Free Blog:  Honest Discussions about Internet Temptations

We recommend an internet accountability and filtering service called Covenant Eyes. Go to frontlinefamilies.org and click on our link.

Have you read our resource called Unmask the Predators? We nearly lost our beautiful daughter, Kalyn, when she was a teen because we thought sexual perversion could never hurt our family. We want to help you learn what we wish we would have known before it happened. Please check out our book!

Question:  Have you had the porn talk with your kids? 

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