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Lisa Cherry —  August 30, 2013

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By Lisa Cherry

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By Lisa Cherry

Anne Marie Miller knows some things about sex and children. 

She wrote about this in her post Three Things You Don’t Know About Your Children and Sex only eight days ago. 

That post has been viewed over 750,000 times.  Yes, in only eight days.  It strikes a note with parents because Anne is speaking very candidly out of her own childhood experience. 

Please read it and take the time to pass it on to a friend who is a parent too.

It’s a sticky subject. You don’t want to face it.

You may be thinking your child is not going to be one of those who will be molested, exposed to pornography, or fall into trouble.

Read Anne’s post anyway. 

It’s time for the kids to go back to school.

It’s time for parents to educate themselves about sex and children. 

And it’s time for parents to start talking to their children about sex.

Note: Anne has written several more posts on this topic here, here, and here.

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By Lisa Cherry

Many in our culture consider rebellion among our teenagers to be normal. In fact, some would say it is healthy.

But how do we as believers deal with the concept of adolescent rebellion when God clearly admonishes His people to obey?  (See Jeremiah 7:23 and 1 Samuel 15:22.)

After having raised some teenagers to mature adulthood, I thought I would share some of my best learning on the issue.  

1.  It is 100% true that teenagers, in order to be healthy adults, must separate from us. They must learn to think for themselves and make wise decisions.  (See Genesis 2:24.)

2. It is also 100% true that teenagers are not much different than us adults. They will not find righteousness, peace, and joy through a lifestyle of rebellion to authorities.

3. All human beings must learn to deal with the temptation to rebel. Hopefully, many of the learnings necessary to walk free of rebellion will be conquered in early childhood.

4. During the teen years, the need to be independent brings natural temptations toward rebellion. How an adolescent learns to conquer those temptations will determine his launching success into young adulthood.

5. Some kids have an easier time conquering rebellion temptations than others. Some will need years of assistance from us, their parents, until they conquer the inner battle.

6. Our homes must be structured to exemplify the biblical principle of Isaiah 1:19-20:

If you consent and obey, you will eat the best of the land;
but if you refuse and rebel, you will be devoured by the sword.

7. We teach our kids that their mature, responsible, obedient demonstrations will earn our trust and increase their freedom. We tell them this illustration:

Son/daughter, everyone in this family wants you to be promoted to higher levels of independence and responsibility. When you come through the gates that we open for you correctly, you will be led into greater fields of freedom.But when you try to sneak over the fence by rebellion, or sneak around the edges by deceit rather than coming through the gate, you will lose. Every time. You will go back to the previous level until you are willing to come through the gate appropriately.

8. The principle of logical consequences backs up the reality of #7. For instance, if a teen rebels against a household rule of when to come home with the car because they think the rule is unfair, the car keys are not available for the next trip out.

9. Encourage, encourage, encourage..... Our kids need us to recognize the reality of this difficult temptation.  Appropriately recognize their successes at conquering the selfishness of self-will. Expect and desire every moment of success they achieve.

10. Recognize that the battle for our teens’ behavior is a battle for our teens’ souls. Pray for their salvation. Pray for their relationship with the Lord. Ask Him to woo them to His side so they will learn the same obedience that Jesus learned by suffering for each of our sins. (See Hebrews 5:8.)

How have you dealt with rebellion in your teen?  I would love to hear from you.  Leave a comment here.

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Are you facing the challenge of rebellion with your teen?  We faced it head on with our daughter Kalyn, after she was tricked into a secret relationship with a sexual predator. 

It was the greatest spiritual battle of my life.  Let us tell you about it in our book, Unmask the Predators.

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Lilly Ryan Kyla praying IMG_1304By Lisa Cherry

In 29 years of parenting experience, I know what it means to be tempted to give up.

Sometimes when we work and work to instill the ways of Christ in our kids and we keep suffering setbacks, we might be tempted to give up...or give in....or compromise our own beliefs or standards.

But before you do, I encourage you look carefully at the picture at the top of this post.

Grand kids.

On the other side of your parenting work...(or lack of work) ..will be your own grandbabies!!!

How is that for a sobering reality check?

When my son in law Adam sent me this picture, I gasped to myself.

Do you know how grateful I am to the Lord that we did not give up when we nearly lost our daughter Kalyn to a messy teen disaster of rebellion and pain?

Do you know how glad I am that we weathered some dandy criticism of our parenting of Nathan, our first born, by those who thought our Christian standards were too "difficult?"

Do you know how thankful I am that even today when my house full of teens demanded so much of my leadership attention that I was tempted to get weary in well doing and give in...but I didn't?

Why? Because the baton pass to the next generation is what it is all about!!

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So maybe you are many years away from a cute little table circled with all your grandbabies praying, but believe me, the day will be here sooner than you can even believe!

And you will never regret that you took the effort and priority to disciple their mama or daddy in the things of the Lord.

I promise!   :)

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Have you got a messy teen disaster in your home too?  It may be a spiritual attack. 

I'll tell you how we fought back in my book, Unmask the Predators.

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A high school student in Howell, Michigan spoke up in class defending his right to express his belief that homosexuality is wrong. The teacher berated him and told him he must “recant.”  When he would not, the teacher threw him out of class. 

Yes, it really happened.

Does this sound like bullying prevention?  

Here at Frontline Moms we have been doing a lot of talking about the issues surrounding sexual perversions. For good reason.

 It seems the culture has moved so many boundary stones so quickly that it can intimidate even the most diligent parent.

 I don't know about you, but I need some help in understanding how we got to where we are, and how to navigate a course of safety for my kids.

When somebody sent me Anthony Esolen’s article “A Pulpit for Bullies” this week, at first I didn't quite understand what the title meant. But I'm very glad I read this well-written article. 

The LGBTQ lobby is in full force in many of our schools. Students and staff who do not toe the line and affirm LGBTQ beliefs, participate in their school “Spirit Days,” and wear their t-shirts are often considered "hateful" and are subjected to disapproval or even punishments.

And even though we may be "sick and tired" of talking about this issue, it is not going away. And our kids are now left in the crossfire.

So here it is. Another important parent educational piece....and good insight for how to pray for your kids if they are heading back to a public school this month!

 Blessing, Lisa

Questions:  Does your child’s school sponsor a pro-gay “Spirit Day” or something similar?   What will you do to counter the LGBTQ dogma being spoon fed to your child at school?

Even if you homeschool, is that enough to protect your children from the evil influences in our culture?

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