An Honest Grief

Lisa Cherry —  November 7, 2013


 By Lisa Cherry

Today my heart is burdened. Today we realized a new level of darkness that even a decade ago I would not have believed could happen.

Our local courthouse will be licensing gay "marriage."

The bill in Illinois passed yesterday, even as so many labored to get it stopped. And now I am left to reckon my feelings.

"Oh well, we knew it was coming."

"It was just a matter of time."

"What else would you expect from a state that is considered so liberal?"

"After the DOMA reversal, everyone will be doing this."

Those were the comments I heard swirling through my mind as the reality settled in my heart. But behind them, I sensed a different torrent of feeling also producing its own musings and prayers.

"God, don't let me get complacent even as the news keeps shocking my heart."

"God, should I ask You if it is appropriate for me to raise my family in a state where what is evil  is honored among men? (Isaiah 5:20) Lord, is there a point where one must flee? How would I know when I hit that point? And Lord, where would the righteous go?

I was sobered by my inner thoughts. Something inside me was shifting toward a posture I have yet to fully identify. But I know my spiritual journey must be strengthened to understand.

 I must be here, but not here. I must be agreeable but not agreeing. I must honor and yet not be willing to honor.

And the truth of 2 Corinthians 6:17 spoke with even more conviction to me than ever before

"Come out from them  and be separate, says the Lord."

Fellow frontline parents, we are in an invisible spiritual culture war, and the days of sitting in the demilitarized zone are over. So we must roll up our sleeves and live lives of prayerful obedience to the only One who knows how to keep my children from falling over the 99% cliff.

NOT OPEN COVER 7-4Over the next weeks I will be writing more intentionally about living a Not Open life in an Open world. Our new book is due to ship within a week or so. It is a gutsy book. And as of this week, I am aware that it will be a non-popular book to the majority who live in my state. But that is okay. Popular is not truth, and truth always prevails in the end.

My prayer is for the Remnant of the Lord to stand firm in this critical hour.

God, I humble myself and my family around Your throne. We have failed to be Your salt of preservation in our great state. Lord, have mercy on us and teach us to hear Your voice in this day. For the sake of the righteous Lord, hear our cry!!

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  • carolvanderwoude

    Dear Lisa,
    My heart is burdened like yours. I am seeking the Lord in how I respond. My deepest grief is over the impact this will have on the public schools and the messages that children will hear.
    We are in a culture war and I am joining you in prayer.

    • Lisa Cherry

      Our schools and our children are in such danger. As we prayerfully
      consider our responses, I am certain the Lord will equip us to stand in
      these dark times.

  • Lynne Davis

    I agree with you Lisa.

    As an Ilinoisan, I am ashamed of our state. What can we expect but the wrath of God?

    "O Lord, righteousness belongs to You, but to us shame of face..." Daniel 9:7

    " For we know Him who said, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. And again, “The Lord will judge His people.” It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God. Hebrews 10:30-31

    • Lisa Cherry

      Ashamed is a good choice of words.

  • Judith

    There are terrible things happening in our country but I will continue to lift my heart up to God.

    • Lisa Cherry


      Thank you for your comment. I am pressing into God too.

  • Mel Caldicott

    Our world is adrift lacking in truth, wisdom and God's grace. It is our ministry to bring God's kingdom to our world through prayer, compassion and truth.

    Thanks so much for sharing at Essential Fridays.



    • Lisa Cherry

      Yes, Mel, We sure do need God's kingdom!