Avoiding Parent Pitfall #2: Flattering Your Child

Lisa Cherry —  November 21, 2013


By Lisa Cherry

We are destroying the work ethic of a generation.

Time Magazine calls this the ME ME ME Generation…  The Millennials who are stuck on the concept of being rewarded not for achievement... but for just showing up.

We parents have learned from the experts the importance of praise and encouragement to our kids.

But if we fall into using what the Bible calls a flattering tongue, we will spread a net for our own kids.

Whoever rebukes a person will in the end gain favor rather than one who has a flattering tongue.   Proverbs 28:23

Those who flatter their neighbors are spreading nets for their feet.  Proverbs 29:5

Honest praise and truthful encouragement feeds the soul of a child, while flattery manipulates the emotions and deceives the mind.

Image:  Narcissus-Caravaggio (1594-96) edited Wikipedia

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This post is part of my series about potholes:  pitfalls that can really jerk your car off the parenting road. These are road hazards that I can personally testify about, because I have fallen into some of them myself!  Here is the first post in this series:

 Avoiding Parent Pitfall #1: Too Much Too Soon

Image: "Road Sign" by oatsy40 via Flickr Creative Commons
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Faith Filled Friday
Women With Purpose