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By Lisa Cherry

Shacking up...

living in sin...

illegitimate births...

When I was a kid, people used derogatory phrases like these for behaviors which today are being perceived by our children as simply another version of normal.

I like how George Barna describes what I am talking about in Futurecast:

“Our nation is in the midst of a seismic reconceptualization of marriage and family.....Marriage no longer signifies the commencement of adult life; it is now a middle step in that journey, after one has completed his or her education, experimented with multiple lovers, relocated to a desirable place, become established in a career, and perhaps even had a child or two.”

—George Barna, Futurecast: What Today's Trends Mean for Tomorrow's World, 2011, p. 48-49, Tyndale House

I would say that is a major reconceptualization, how about you?

I am intrigued by Barna's word here. To conceptualize means to visualize and formulate in one’s head.

As the mother of several teens and preteens, I am very interested in their "conceptualizations"—and what influences them!

movies…

media…

Hollywood…

But even more influential are friends and family who can all move my kids' views of marriage and family away from what we know to be God's views.

Unless I intentionally do something about it.

Are you talking about these issues with your kids regularly?

Are you exposing, explaining, reasoning, listening, and shaping them?

Are you taking ownership of our collective problem and recognizing your family's unique vulnerabilities to "reconceptualizations?"

That is our job, parents.  No one else will be able to properly educate our kids on these issues. But if we abdicate our role, someone or something else will step in. 

We are in the middle of an Invisible Spiritual Culture War. But it is only invisible to those who choose to not see.

I am praying for your family today. I do not intend for my  descendants to reconceptualize... ...and I know you do not want it either!

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God is the inventor of Hot Romance...  This 7 part DVD is a family guide for dating, courtship, love and sex.  Get it at our store here.

Related posts:
Do You Have An OPEN DOOR Policy in Your Home?
Cohabitation: the New Dating?
“I Just Live With My Boyfriend Because it is Cheaper”
Fornication? What’s That?
There Go the Brides
The Cute Little Couple Next Door Could Destroy Your Kids
What if Dad and Mom Messed Up Sexually?

First Love or First Lust?

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February 15  is the day that Not Open will be released on Amazon. 

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Find out if you are open, or not.  Take the quiz.

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Follow Lucas on Twitter @LucasCherry41

Get email updates to Lisa’s blog at Frontline Moms and Dads.

 

 

 

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By Lisa Cherry

Do you ache when you hear yet another story of one of your Christian friends going astray?

Do you believe God has a good plan to rescue our kids from the cultural mess of 1%?

We need straight answers. Our kids need straight answers.

That is why my son Lucas and I wrote the new resource called Not Open: Win the Invisible Spiritual Culture War.

God has not left us ill-equipped!

Not Open ebook_LARGEToday, we want you to take a sneak peek at this gutsy book.  Please read the sample chapter here.

Not Open releases with a Launch Day Amazon event on Saturday, February 15.

When you and your friends purchase the book on Amazon on February 15—not before!—you will receive several free gifts from some of our online friends.

We will give you those details in a few days.

Don Wildman has endorsed Not Open.  Here’s what he said:

Christians actively engaged in the war for our culture will be inspired and strengthened by Not Open: Win the Invisible Spiritual Culture War.  Others will be challenged to become engaged.  --Dr. Don Wildman, Founder and Chairman Emeritus, American Family Association.

Will you help us pray for a Not Open Revolution that would shake our generations?

 

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February 15  is the day that Not Open will be released on Amazon. 

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Read the sample chapter of Not Open.

Find out if you are open, or not.  Take the quiz.

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Follow Lisa on Twitter  @LisaCherry9

Follow Lucas on Twitter @LucasCherry41

Get email updates to Lisa’s blog at Frontline Moms and Dads.

Read some recent posts:

Do You Have an OPEN DOOR Policy in Your Home?

Why I Changed the Way I Pray For My Kids Today

10 Reasons My Older Kids Still Go to Church

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By Lisa Cherry

We often hear this phrase, but I guess I am not sure what it means.

I think most would take it as a phrase denoting southern hospitality or neighborly love. But when you think about it, it is a strange phrase.

Who has an open door policy really? Open to whom? Everyone?

 Even the robbers, murderers, and thugs?

Open to those who are dangerous, deceived, or contagious?

It made me think about the doors of my home. The one that we can see with our eyes on the front porch that we keep locked for our family's safety.  

And the ones that are unseen which must also be protected....

The doors to our minds ...our hearts ...and our souls.

In my lifetime, I have felt the incredible pressure to live my life with an "open door policy."

"Lisa, you must be open-minded to be well educated."

"Lisa, don't you know you must open your heart to all people's views. Tolerance is letting each person be right."

Surely you have noticed these pressures too?  Pressures to live in the new OPEN?

How about my kids? Have they accidentally absorbed an Open mentality even while living in my home?  I have asked these questions of myself and my kids.

Why don’t you ...and your family... take our quiz to find out if you are living Open or Not Open?  This issue is critical if we are to stay safely with our Lord.

Interesting point to ponder:  God never said we were to be open-minded. It is found nowhere in the Bible.  The mandate to be Open-minded comes from our modern culture.

In fact, we are not supposed to be OPEN minded. We are supposed to be Renewed-minded! 

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”  Romans 12:2

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Our new book is releasing February 15 on Amazon. 

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Recent posts:

Why I Changed the Way I Pray For My Kids Today

10 Reasons My Older Kids Still Go to Church

 

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By Lisa Cherry

I want to see a real deal of a move of God in this generation.  And I am asking God to let it begin in my family.

I don't want my kids to just "keep going to church." I want them to arise out of mediocrity and do great exploits for our King.

Today I was praying through our prayer guide for 30 Days of Prayer for a Not Open Revolution and I was blown away by what I saw. 

Our prayer emphasis today was for the King Josiah’s of this generation to arise. If you are not familiar with his story, check it out in 2 Kings 22 and 23. Josiah became king of Judah at age eight after his father who was a wicked leader was assassinated. He was one of the few Godly kings of Judah who followed in the ways of King David.

Josiah nobly began a restoration project of the temple when his officials ran across the book of the law. Since his nation had been backslidden from God, Josiah had not heard the word of the Lord. In 2 Kings 22:11 we read of his remarkable response to the reading of the law:

"When the King heard the words of the Book of the Law, he tore his robes."

Then later we read how he tore down all the false gods of his day and lead his nation to massive revival.

That is why our prayer focus today was so important.  We desperately need leaders to arise in this generation who will respond to the Word of the Lord again and lead us to revival!

So today I was praying that my own children would be a part of this great Not Open Revolution and be like King Josiah. As I was praying, I looked ahead on the page of my Bible to the rest of chapter 22. That’s when I discovered something that transformed my prayer.

The prophetess Huldah came to Josiah and told him of God’s response to his heart of repentance. Here is the piece of what she said to him that pierced my heart this morning:  These are the words of the Lord here:

“Because your heart was responsive and you humbled yourself before the Lord when you heard what I have spoken against this place… because you tore your robes and wept in my presence, I also have heard you, declares the Lord.”  2 Kings 22:19

Can you see it, parents? God will need to do a deeper work in our midst if we are to see the tide turn with only 1% of our kids’ generation living a biblical worldview!

We need to see something happen that will jar us. Not comfort us.

So today I changed my prayers:

Lord, I ask You to make my kids’ hearts responsive to You. 

Cause them to humble themselves before You in a way that is remarkable and supernatural.

Lord, orchestrate such massive penetration of the Word of God to their hearts that they would respond by a tearing-their-robes style conviction and great weeping of soul.

God, we are desperate for Your word and Your presence. We are desperate for a move of Your Spirit. Whatever it takes to bring us back to You, we want it Lord!!  

And Lord, by Your mercy, let this whole process begin with me and my husband. Turn us upside down for You. Send us to lead our generation to the foot of Your cross again.

Wow. I sensed God’s power as I prayed this radical prayer.  And now I wonder…

What would happen if thousands of us parents began praying this same request for our kids??

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Related posts:
10 Reasons My Older Kids Still Go to Church

Will Only 1% of Our Kids Make It?

Our new book is releasing February 15 on Amazon:

NOT OPEN COVER 7-4

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Are you open, or not?  Take the quiz.

 

 

 

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By Lisa Cherry   

Not everyone's kids are running away from church.  

It may seem that way when we look at statistics.

But even if only 1% of our kids are currently displaying a biblical worldview, we cannot give up!!  And we must recognize that some Millennials are radically in love with our Jesus.  tweet about this

Over the years many parents have asked me how come our kids are still going to church even though they are pastors’ kids and "due" for a season of falling away.

My answer: God's grace and His mercy! I can’t take credit that all my kids are serving the Lord.

However, since I still have some of my children under the age of accountability, I decided to identify what the Lord has done or has taught us that I believe has helped. I don't want to have any mess ups now, and lose sight of what has worked!

So here are my top 10 observations:

10 Reasons My Older Kids Still Go to Church

1. It was never a decision point.  We never entertained, discussed, or thought about not going or allowing our kids not to go. Think about how this works in other areas of our lives. If I have to re-decide every day whether I am going to follow my own exercise habits ....well, I can tell you what happens with that. :)

2. Each one has their own personal relationship with Jesus.  Jesus did this one. They have encountered His reality at a young age for themselves. So they go to church because they love to worship Him.

3. We talk about real issues, even the tough ones. I find this young generation wants help with the tough issues that are hot buttons. So at our house ....and our church....we talk about the tough stuff. Not just the religious stuff.

4. They serve with their own jobs at church.  Our kids carry significant responsibilities of servant leadership from a young age.   They are not just hanging around. It matters to them...  and to others... when they show up.

5. It's an adventure for our family.  Passion is contagious. Doug and I find serving Jesus to be the most exciting real life drama ever imaginable!! Kids and teens love adventure. Authentic Kingdom of God participation is exciting, daring, risky, joyful, and challenging. And we love it!

6. The Bible is a part of our daily life.  We have family devotions at least four times a week. Prayer and Bible reading are daily habits for us all. So why wouldn't we want to be with the other believers on Sunday morning?

7. Our church is not big into entertainment.  We don't tickle ears or entertain. We study hard, play hard, cry hard, and laugh hard. Everyone knows we live in an over-entertained culture. So we don't even try to "compete" as entertainment.

8. Our relationships are strong.  This one is tough but real. Because we have healthy relationships at home, no one is wanting to rebel against us by the one way they know could hurt us the worst. Forsaking God. Lord, give us grace to maintain those healthy close relationships!!

9. We are honest about the dry moments.  Doug and I are transparent about our spiritual ups ....and our spiritual downs. Everyone has valleys and mountains. Our kids' valleys can scare them into doubt if they do not have endurance and understanding! But isn't it cool how God always pulls us out of valleys if we are patient?

10. We don't run church down with our mouths.  People mess up sometimes. And sometimes people in our lives abandon us. Learning to handle the messy moments of spiritual warfare and relationship pain as a family is critical. We must help our children process the frailties of our brothers and sisters. But we best not find ourselves gossiping, complaining, backbiting or murmuring.  Or why would our children want to come along??

I would love to hear what you would add to my list. Comment with your ideas here and we will all learn together.

Love, Lisa

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Related Post: Why I Changed the Way I Pray For My Kids Today

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NOT OPEN COVER 7-4

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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