Metalcore musician Tim Lambesis founded As I Lay Dying, a band that toured the Christian circuit. He has recently been sentenced to six years in jail for attempting to have his wife murdered.
Oh, and by the way, he says he is an atheist.
I guess we shouldn't be all that surprised to read the kind of story where fame caused someone to hide their true identity. But when that hidden identity was clearly portrayed by lyrics sung from an un-regenerated heart, then perhaps as parents we’d best take note.
Here’s a telling comment from Lambesis, quoted in an article by Jennifer LeClaire:
A lot of Christian parents said, 'Yes, you can buy this As I Lay Dying CD, because they're a Christian band.' They don't even think to actually check the lyrics."
Who are our kids listening to??
And what are the lyrics to their songs?
Parents, one of the clearest clues I have ever seen to identifying what is truly going on in the life of you kids is to note their personal taste in music. What they want to listen to reflects what is stirring in their soul.
Note the choices they make when they are not in your presence. Make rules when you must ... but more importantly, listen, truly listen to what the Holy Spirit will reveal to you about what is feeding their passions.
We cannot police our kids’ hearts. Oh, we think we can. But really we cannot. They are given the free will to "obey" us on the outside, but sing whatever song they choose in their own heads.
That is why we pray… and love… and watch.
For we care about more than just their taste in music. We care about the outflow of their souls searching for the voice it will worship.