I was finishing my back-to-school plans this past weekend and decided to take a peek into how I was doing with each of my kids’ sex education.
Hmmm. I think each one of them is due for more conversation time with mom and even as I consider it, I must confess....I sometimes feel nervous!
Now, how could the lady who constantly writes about this issue still feel uncomfortable, you may ask?
I would say for these 5 Reasons ....
1. Sex is a personal issue.
In our sex-saturated culture, I still believe this is true... and should be true! God designed the beauty of sex to be shared only with our spouse. So the sense of embarrassment we feel is only natural. But this should not stop us from talking to our kids!
2. I want my privacy.
I want my kids to know that sex within marriage is GREAT.... but at the same time, I value my personal privacy with my husband. This quandary can, unless I work through it, cause me to keep quiet.
3. I don't want to mess it up.
Sexual values and standards are such a big deal. At the thought of discussing them I feel “performance anxiety.” I want to do this right! And anytime something is making me nervous, I am more prone to procrastination.
4. I am worried that I will violate their innocence.
What would I do if my kids asked a question that I do not know how to answer for their age? What if I give them too much information too soon, or answer it in a way that violates their innocence? Those two questions used to paralyze me with fear.
5. I have to face my own failures from the past.
I am grateful to have arrived at the marriage altar a virgin. But that does not mean I did not make mistakes that I deeply regret! Who wants to hear from your own kids...."but Mom, you did...?" Facing bad memories is never fun. But those memories can either taunt us or motivate us, I figure.
As our kids grow and mature, Doug and I want to be the ones who take the personal effort to talk with our kids! We know it is a matter of life and death!
So....that is why I have learned to carry my anxieties to the Lord and make those conversations happen in spite of my 5 hindrances.
So how about you? Will you join me in updating your sex ed strategies this year?
Come back next time and we will talk about....
Sex Education: 8 keys to talking to your children...even if you are nervous!