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May I offer you a simple suggestion from a mom who has launched several teens into adulthood....but still has 5 teens and tweens in the house?

Make them sleep!

Sleep is a remarkable mood regulator and tension reliever. We all know that. Just let us parents get a little sleep deprived....and, well, we don’t want to go there!

But teenagers have so much to do at night that they just...can't...seem...to....get....to ....bed....!

Do you know what I mean?

I find this to be a battle I am constantly fighting on behalf of my teens.

They need my help to prioritize and get to bed. In fact, they sometimes need my help now more than when they were little!

I am not saying we should nag. (But then again nagging might be preferable to letting them get so sleep deprived that their behavior falls apart and they feel helpless!)

But I am saying that sleep health requires adult help at this age.

And since I am in the middle of this stage....helpful ideas are always appreciated!

See Mayo Clinic’s article: Teen sleep: Why is your teen so tired?

Lisa

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You may think we don't need to talk about this anymore....

But after my last few weeks speaking to many parents, I am more convinced than ever that the issue of homosexuality is still confusing many kids!

The popular but fallacious idea that homosexuality is inborn and therefore unchangeable is repeated over and over in the media airwaves. Many kids are falling for the lie.

I ran across Laurie Higgins’ great article Homosexuals Admit “Sexual Orientation” Can and Does Change this week. She simply lists many quotes—from LGBT activists— that explain why this lie is being touted as fact...even when there is no reputable scientific explanation.

“Gay” spokespersons portray sexuality as “fluid” and matter of “choice.” They know that “born that way” is a myth, and that does not ultimately serve their agenda.   (Maybe someone should let Lady Gaga know so she can recall her song about it.)

If you are a parent, arm yourself with this information so you will be able to explain things to your children.

If you have older kids, this list could really help them shatter that myth in their own mind. 

At risk here.....our kids could get sucked into a deceptive line of reasoning that threatens to undermine their confidence in God's word.

Lisa

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Related posts:

When a Child is Subtlety Deceived by the ‘Gay’ Love Story

Mom, Would You Love Me if I’m Bisexual?, Part 1

Mom, Would You Love Me If I’m Bisexual, Part 2

Mom, Would You Love Me If I’m Bisexual? Part 3

Would My Response to the Bisexual Question Be Illegal? (Part 4)

 


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My kids brought me this article explaining how George Perdikis, one of the founders of the Newsboys Christian Band, recently announced that he is now an atheist. How tragic. And how confusing.

How can it be that the same year we watched the Newsboys on the movie release God's Not Dead we also hear of their original band member's departure from the faith? Is that not ironic?

Atheism does appear to be on the rise.

But I am not one who thinks the trend must continue! As a parent I am committed to learn what I can about the reasons someone leaves their faith....and then do everything in my power to counter these hindering forces before they attack my family and friends!

Here are 9 top reasons I have noted. Can you think of others?

1. They never were really a Christian: Lack of authentic faith in the heart even when appearances are being kept up to fake a Christian identity will eventually show up on the outside.

2. Losing their "First Love": Jesus warned of being tricked into forsaking your first love in Revelation 2:4. All through the Old Testament we read of those who started with God and then fell in love with something else that led them away from Him.

3. Cares, worries, and riches: The seed (which is the Word of God) was choked to death in the parable of the sower by cares, worries, and riches. Matthew 13:1-22. When the Word is snuffed out in a person's heart, faith leaves.

4. Shallow Bible knowledge: Eve was talked out of her obedient faith in God by the snake who simply questioned her belief. "Did God really say?" is being asked in our modern world by an unbelieving and perverse generation. If we do not know how to answer the tough questions of our day using biblical reasoning, we can easily be talked out of faith. (I’ve written about this in our book Not Open).

5. Persecution: Matthew 13: 21 says concerning the seed that fell on the rocky soil, "But since he has no root, he lasts only a short time. When trouble or persecution comes because of the word, he quickly falls away." We are on the increasing edge of real persecution in this country, so people falling away according to this scripture could be a predicted result.

6. Bitter roots: When bad things happen to good people, everyone wants to know "why." And if we suffer painful loss the enemy of our souls will tempt us to do what Job’s wife told him to do: Curse God and die. (Job 2:9)

Hebrews 12:15 says it this way: See to it that… no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.

7. Heretical doctrines: False doctrines are sometimes called false gospels in the Bible. Today we see many false teachings circulating that open the door for an abandonment of true Biblical orthodox Christian faith.

8. Sin: Sin has the power to blind us. If we are not willing to repent quickly of our sin, we are tempted to rewrite what we believe to escape sin's inevitable consequences.

9. Broken family images: When the image of Daddy is painful in this life, some walk away from the One who can heal their broken souls!

 So ....what are you doing in your home to counter these enemies of your Christian faith?

Lisa

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Related External Link: 4 Truths to Combat Atheism's Lie

 

 

 

 

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Trust between a parent and child is critical.

Without it the whole relationship is compromised and challenged.

Kids and teens generally want their parents to trust them. They seem to recognize instinctively trust's power to control their lives.

As parents, we want our kids to be promoted into new levels of responsibility and freedom.

But we are very quick to recognize that trust is the only real pathway to freedom.

When our children make errors, trust is injured and consequence result.

Sometimes the level of trust violation is so deep that serious changes must occur.

Kids who are found with drugs, or who sneak out the bedroom window alter their own destinies.

But we as their parents are never to give up on them....even if they have greatly disappointed us by their foolish choices.

Here are 8 possible things to say when trust has been violated:

1. Trust has been injured, but trust can be rebuilt.

2. Trust is injured in an instant, but can be rebuilt over periods of time.

3. Though the trust aspect of our relationship has been damaged by your actions....the love aspect of our relationship is 100% intact and sure.

4. I love you too much to allow you to hurt yourself like that again therefore we will need to make this adjustment in our family policies:_____________

5. When I am convinced of your sincere repentance (not just your sorrow that you got caught), we will begin down the road to restoration.

6. I believe the Lord will restore what has been loss here if we will give Him the opportunity to work in our hearts.

7. In this family, promotion comes when trust is earned. If you want promotion, you must choose the pathway of trustworthy, right choices.

8. I am anticipating you will make some errors along the way to growing up. I am sure we can agree that this was a significant error. But I believe in the man/woman God is calling you to become. I have already seen the potential in you! We will get past this with God's help.

Parents, do not be too quick to restore privileges that have been lost because of trust violations. Give your kids the gift of integrity. They may not thank you on the spot! (In fact, they may wail and cry!)

But later on, they will respect your wise parenting...and maybe even come back to thank you!

Lisa

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Related posts:
“Don’t You Trust Me to Drive?”
“You Don’t Trust Me”…Responding to Teens on Internet Use

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All week long I have watched the national outcry against today's release of the movie version of 50 Shades of Gray.

J. Lee Grady made an accurate assessment in his post: Let’s Call 'Fifty Shades of Grey' What It Is: Perverted.

I am pleased to see many are speaking out against it, so I thought maybe I need not comment.

However there are 3 problems that we as Frontline Moms and Dads should consider:

1. 50 Shades is Slipping into the Youth Culture: Even when we do not see a movie or even like its message, our media-saturated culture makes it almost impossible to escape the trendy themes. That is scary in this case, isn't it?

 Teens watch movies—lots of them, and what they watch influences their behavior

Check out this story of how middle school students in Pennsylvania have jumped on the 50 Shades bandwagon. Note the posters and clips all around us. Expect the terminology to sneak in, much like the Twilight phenomenon did…

2. Our kids will not understand this movie's perversion: None of us want our kids to be introduced to this violent, perverse sexuality. But their friends know about it and many even think it is “cool.” Will they be able to resist this pressure?

I am going to inform my older kids about this in a non-descriptive, general way to make sure they are not caught off guard.

3. The movie will come out in video: About the time we are all done talking about it and complaining, the movie will pop up in Wal-Mart, Red Box, and grocery stores. We must all be on guard! Many teens will happen on it once it is in home viewing capability.

Will you join me in prayer for our nation's children and teens to be protected from this vile attack on their innocence?

Lisa

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