3 Things We Should Never Say to Our Kids

Lisa Cherry —  March 11, 2015

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Yesterday one of my kids suffered a real setback and disappointment.

As I watched him struggle through the pain, I wanted desperately to find a way to fix it. But....that was not to be.

Don't you just hate it when your kids are in pain? Wouldn't you join me in wishing that the problems in this fallen world would not touch those that we love?

As I was carefully selecting what I should say to ease his pain, it struck me the potential weight my words could carry.

Parents, we hold an amazing responsibility in stewarding over our children's young lives.

Our words can frame their world for success and hope....or cut them to failure and despair.

Sometimes in the "big events" like I experienced yesterday we are keenly aware of this power. But what about the everyday moments that are not so monumental?

Today, I am challenging myself to identify key phrases that are too dangerous to ever utter. Here are my first top 3 that come to mind:

3 Things We Should Never Say to Our Kids:

1. You always do…   Watch out for the absolute declarations. Our kids are still in process! God would never say that about us!

2. You never do...   This is a mirror image of number 1. And it is not helpful either!

3. Why can't you be more like your brother/sister?   Comparison is so deadly. Check out 2 Corinthians 10:12.

What would you add to this list?

I love this little article from John Trent that helps us replace those old, bad phrases with words of affirmation that can nourish our kids' hearts.

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