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The stability of the marital relationship in a family often hinges on the contentment of the two spouses.

Just this week Doug and I had been talking about a yearning desire to take some time this summer to intentionally strengthen our relationship. Over the years, we have discovered we can do that!

We–not circumstances—can decide to grow our marriage under the leadership of the Holy Spirit. And even an excellent marriage can always go higher!

It is amazing to me that after Doug and I had that conversation, the Lord has thrown into my path several resources. Here is one that I got today that was too good not to pass on to my friends and readers.

Spoken from a senior leader, James Dobson, who has weathered many seasons of marriage, I believe his words are worth gold. And his advice about falling in and out of love is so outstanding that I will be reading it to our older kids!

Why is this important? If you are a married Christian parent, you are discipling your children through your marital relationship. Your strong marriage is an example for them.

It’s an integral part of the culture in your home. It shows not only what a marriage should be like, but also what Christ’s relationship is with His church.

Let me know what you think.....

NOTE: Please be advised that the second part of Dr. Dobson's article contains advice for married couples about sex.

Falling Out of Love?

Does your marriage occupy a space somewhere between chronic overcommitment and complete exhaustion? You and your spouse deserve better! Here are some proven ideas for falling back in love and re-igniting a passionate marriage...

Love is More Than a Feeling
by Dr. James Dobson

I met Shirley when we were in college and gradually came to love her. Notice I didn’t say that I “fell in love” with her. That phrase is misleading, making young people believe that falling in love is like tumbling into a ditch. That is not the way it happens. I didn’t fall in love with Shirley...I grew into a close relationship with her. After the first surge of emotion was over, Click here to read the rest of this article

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For the last two days I have been working to sort out my thoughts related to the Joshua Duggar scandal.

Once again the issue of sexual abuse has reared its ugly head. Once again the whole realm of emotions related to sexual abuse are stirring in the public square.

How tragic for the victims.
How tragic for the tainted testimony.
How tragic for the Duggar family.

I am in no way interested in dissecting the case personally. Having no privy to the inside story, I would not risk misrepresentation.

However Russell Moore had a blog post that I feel good to pass on to you.

As we pray for all those involved in this scandal, I believe it is appropriate for us to ask ourselves,

What can we learn from this mess?

Please take a moment and read this post.

None of us can change what happened in the past. But we can provide a safer place for our kids in the future.

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I need to constantly update my understanding about healthy sexuality.

I recognize that I am raising children in the middle of a sex-saturated, perverse culture. My children will need greater help from me if they are to maintain purity before marriage and commitment after marriage.

This article titled Sex Before Marriage Rewires Your Brain caught my attention.

I believe the information contained in this research-based study will equip us to love our spouses more fully today and to equip our children for the future.

Take a look and see what you think.


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