Target: I am a Mom of a Sexual Abuse Victim and I Do Not Feel “Included”

Lisa Cherry —  April 22, 2016

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Dear Target management:


Your corporate announcement April 19 reiterating your "stand for inclusivity" in relation to transgender bathroom laws failed to include me. And, since you stated on your corporate webpage that you "strive to make (y)our guests and team members feel accepted, respected, and welcomed in (y)our stores and workplaces every day," I figured you would value hearing why I feel incredibly rejected, disregarded and unwelcome in your store.


I am a mother of a child sexual abuse victim. Issues of child safety are not political to me. They are very personal. So, please, in the name of "inclusivity" allow me to express my objections.


Allowing anyone of any biological or perceived gender at any time in any bathroom (or dressing room) of their choice for any reason with anyone else is outlandish. Your global policy statement opens many questions for which there seem to be no reasonable answers. 


First, how will you protect children and women from sexual predators who on any given day may choose to self-identify as transgender just so they can gain access to their next victim? Second, what about sexual abuse victims rights of privacy? Don’t they have a right to privacy in public places where their own personal space is most vulnerable? Third, how will anyone supervise the security of these "inclusive" facilities? Will you hire security force bathroom attendants to keep voyeurs out? And how will the untested laws provide boundaries of what is appropriate bathroom behaviors for those who just want what has now become a legal peek? And what about a large percentage of us who just want our privacy while we are performing bodily functions? Why aren’t we included in your "inclusivity" to NOT have members of the opposite biological gender in a stall next to us performing their bodily functions? And, how can your corporate policy statement issued at the national level mandate local government policy interpretations in my local region?


Lest you choose to identify my aforementioned arguments as "hysteria" or "discrimination," I encourage you to click on the links where many of the situations I listed above have already happened. Then I also ask you to view the video Women: Decide For Yourselves and then explain to me how you will assure that I, as well as other women or children, will be safe in your stores when your policies are in full swing. Are you not concerned about the potential lawsuits to your stores in the face of potential crimes?


Once I learned of your new corporate decision, I immediately called my local Target store. A very sweet lady answered and attempted to refer me to the corporate headquarters phone number. (800-440-0680)  I was polite with her, but asked her to please take my concerns to her local manager. You see, the bathrooms you are writing policies for are not at your corporate headquarters building. They are in my local small town community. And as a community leader, I do not want to see any of our local children or women become the victims that ignites court cases which would eventually reverse these dangerous activist policies!


Do you see now why I feel excluded? How will you include my needs in your inclusive policies? How will you include the needs of the more than one in four women who have been victims of sexual abuse and who struggle with issues of personal safety and sexual privacy? Sure the needs of the 0.3 percent of the population that identifies as transgender deserve attention. But opening the 99.7 percent up to negative consequences is not the way to help. Private accommodations in separate facilities are the sensible and kind solution.


I believe I speak for a large group of concerned citizens who, in the past have been your faithful customers. For our safety and that of our families, we will not continue to do business in your store until these issues are appropriately addressed. We are watching the LGBT activists in the business world draw their lines and we, as law abiding citizens and business customers who consider this issue morally reprehensible and dangerous, are ready to draw our lines as well.


Thank you for your consideration in these matters. I look forward to receiving a response to my inquiry.





Lisa Cherry




Postscript to readers:


The dark force of lawlessness has hit our nation like a flood. It is time we not only support those in the public leadership who are attempting to affect change on our behalf, but also to wade into the deep waters ourselves and courageously take a stand. 

Here are three very important action steps to consider right now:


  1. Call your local store. Ask how they will handle the store policies and voice your concern.


  1. Repost this article on Facebook and discuss the issues with your neighbor. We have to take action now to stop this insanity.


  1. Be willing to take steps of action. No, it may not be convenient to stop shopping at Target, but if we don't make the sacrifices now, what other freedoms are we willing to lose as we watch these new laws exclude us from our rights?




Lisa Cherry's  passion is to encourage and equip today's Christians. She is the author of “Like A Flood: Live Boldly. Love Truthfully. Stand Fearlessly in a Post Christian America,” “Not Open: Win the Invisible Spiritual Culture War” and “Unmask the Predators: Every Parent's Battle to Protect Their Children.” She may be contacted via her ministry website


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  • Dio Jones

    I was abused, and trans-sexual men in a woman's bathroom will NOT end good

    Always be a light that is .shininginthedark.