Archives For admin

Doug cherry_-5253 Dear Frontline Moms & Dads readers,

For the last nine months, I have watched my wife labor over a message that I believe is vital to you and your family.

She has poured her life out into this project called Like a Flood: Live Boldly. Love Truthfully. Stand Fearlessly. In a Post-Christian America.

On Saturday, Like a Flood will release with an Amazon bestseller contest. If you don't know what that is, please allow me to explain.

Millions of books are written and released in America every year. Only a few will be marketed and make it into homes. If enough people purchase Like a Flood as it releases this Saturday, marketing efforts within the powerful Amazon world will be signaled.

It's kind of like what happens when a movie releases. If it has a big opening weekend, the movie moves around the nation.

I truly believe this life-changing message is from God and needs to move around the nation.

Will you help us?

On Saturday, will you go to Amazon and purchase a copy of  Like a Flood

Will you also refer your friends there?

Click on this link to get a sneak peek of what is in the book. I believe once you take a look, you will understand why I am making this personal appeal.

Thank you so much for your faithful support of Frontline Family Ministries. Please know that all proceeds from this book sale goes right back into helping families.

Together, we can prepare our lives and those of our family members for this turbulent season in America!

Please look below for the exact instructions for what to do Saturday.

Sincerely,

Doug Cherry

    *     *     *     *     *

Like a Flood National Launch: Saturday, April 16

6 a.m. - 8 p.m.  CST

We are excited to announce that Like a Flood will be making it's big debut this Saturday, April 16th!

Be sure to purchase your copy here on Amazon.com on Saturday, April 16th between 6am-8pm CST.

 


Meet our newest member and hear our new plan to strengthen your family and equip you to stand strong. CLICK THE VIDEO BELOW.

JOIN US IN WELCOMING

Elijah Amos Waller!

10440977_10154540938805788_2076067284415762406_n IMG_2044

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Son of Adam and Kalyn Waller

Born August 25

8lb 2oz - 20 inches long

Thank you for your prayers! He is doing extremely well after a report in his ultrasound that many of you were praying for! To God be the Glory!

Take note of his NAME......and then watch this short video that announces THE NEW PLAN!

We are very excited about our announcements! Take a look....and then email us back with your thoughts and responses. (Email lucas@FrontlineFamilies.com)

Doug, Lisa Hannah

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Doug and Lisa
Frontline Family Ministries

The Sex Ed Book List I Promised

I have intentionally been doing some parental "continuing education" on the topic of how to talk to your kids about sexuality. In last Monday's post, Sex Education: 8 keys to talking to your children, I mentioned I had been doing some reading. Some of you messaged me wanting to know what I had been reading, so today I am sharing some of the resources I have been reviewing. Some of them were new to my library....and some were trusted standbys that I reviewed with fresh eyes.

Please do not take this as an exhaustive list. In fact, I will be adding to it over time. But each of these titles has been significant to me, so perhaps they will also help you!

I cannot endorse every idea in all these resources. Please note that I believe there is a great deal of room for parental style in how to present this issue! Take what you like and leave the rest....that is what I do when I read parenting books under the leadership of the Holy Spirit.

Books Lisa has been reading lately (Click on cover picture to order):

Books to read with kids:

Why Boys and Girls are Different by Carol Greene

The Story of Me by Stan and Brenna Jones

Preparing Your Daughter for Every Woman's Battle by Shannon Ethridge

The Wonderful Way Babies are Made by Larry Christenson

What's the Big Deal? Why God Cares About Sex by Stan and Brenna Jones

Before I Was Born by Carolyn Nystrom

I have used each of these resources with my kids at different stages. I think they can each be effective in their own way.

Books to learn more as a parent:

Every Young Woman's Battle by Shannon Ethridge: This is a great discussion starter with your girls that includes a section for mom ...and then a section for mom (or dad) and daughter.

Beautifully Made: 1 Approaching Womanhood;
2 Celebrating Womanhood
edited by Julie Hiramine

Guardians of Purity by Julie Hiramine
A new read for me. Excellent book! I loved it!

Preparing for Adolescence by Dr. James Dobson
This is a classic! It is so helpful to review the growth and development needs of your kids on a regular basis.

A Covenant with My Eyes by Bob Sorge
Wow ! This takes issues of purity straight to the heart!

Talking to Your Kids About Sex by Mark Laaser Ph.D.
Great help for those coming to their parenting with wounds and hurts in their past. I didn't agree with all the conclusions in the last half, but I found it very helpful.

A Queer Thing Happened to America by Michael L Brown Ph.D.
I did not know the history of the gay agenda ....which is the history of the sexual pressures of this generation. I learned so much here that is helping me explain things to my kids.

Can You be Gay and Christian? By Michael L Brown Ph.D.
This book is a must if we are to handle the theological questions our kids are bound to ask in a rapidly shifting culture.

Suicide: Are We Missing the Point?

admin —  August 17, 2014 — 1 Comment

 Robin_Williams_2011a_(2)

by guest blogger, Karen Hardin

I appreciate my friend Karen's thoughts for our families on this most distressing story this week. –Lisa

The headlines began populating the internet and media by mid-afternoon August 11, trying to make sense of a senseless loss.

“Robin Williams Dies by Suicide at 63.”

 An unthinkable tragedy from a man who some have said “had everything” and yet obviously he didn’t. He didn’t have peace. But is that to say, he didn’t have some type of relationship with God, as some have suggested in their tweets and Facebook posts? Not necessarily. But human nature wants to blame something or someone and so we search for answers. And searching is good, if it leads us to the correct responses. So far, based on the innumerable cyberspace responses and outpouring of grief, I’m not convinced that has happened. And I am left wondering....Are we missing the point?

The questions and statements that are flooding the internet in response to this tragedy shine a light on yet another tragedy. We are potentially asking the wrong questions and making the wrong assessments.  Here are just some of the posts and tweets flooding cyberspace after the announcement of Williams’ death.

FB Post: “What if he had known God?”

FB Post: Well, at last he is free.

Tweet: “Genie (in reference to his role in “Aladdin”) you’re free.

Tweet: It is chemical imbalance and not his fault.

Tweet: Now you can be happy.

But does suicide truly bring a final happiness? Is knowing God the “answer” to fighting suicidal thoughts? Can we realistically push all the blame to a chemical imbalances—although they are  real?

Popular blogger Matt Walsh said in his post of August 12, “it isn’t just clinical, it’s spiritual,” a statement which has brought him under fire. I agree with Walsh. Depression, which precipitates suicide, isn’t just clinical. There is a spiritual element to this insidious plight that has taken the lives of young and old alike. There is a spiritual oppression that certainly plays a hideous role which sucks its victims into a hole so black and dark that they feel they will never emerge. And yet, there is no denying that depression is also clinical, as studies have shown that chemical imbalances in the brain and nervous system are definitely contributing factors in this issue of mental health.

As a parent we have to ask the hard questions, “What about my children or their friends?” Are they fighting this battle? Are they masking the fear, pain or an imbalance in their system that makes them susceptible to consider death an alternative to life?

For those who say they cannot comprehend what would push someone to consider suicide as a viable alternative, let me share some important facts:

  1. Suicide is the third leading cause of death in American teens.
  2. Suicide rates are four times higher among men than women.
  3. The strongest risk factor for suicide is depression.

Unless you have battled depression, (and it is important to note that not all who battle depression also battle suicidal thoughts) it is probably incomprehensible to grasp what would push someone to the brink of such despair that they feel their only alternative is to end it all. What kind of pain would lead someone to believe that there is truly no hope? And that is the key. The pain.

On August 12, Walsh commented on his blog, “I can’t comprehend the complete, total, absolute rejection of life. It’s a tragic choice, truly, but it is a choice, and we have to remember that. Your suicide doesn’t happen to you; it doesn’t attack you like cancer or descend upon you like a tornado. It is a decision made by an individual. A bad decision. Always a bad decision.”

I agree with Walsh—up to a point. I agree that the decision to attempt suicide is a choice….a decision…and always a bad decision. But I don’t believe Williams' decision was to reject life. Instead wasn’t it a decision to reject what had become for him unbearable pain and be free from the torment? 

It is important to understand that contrary to Walsh’s post, depression can and does descend on many like a tornado. It IS like a cancer that eats away at the mental well-being of its victims from the inside out. The battle to return to “normal” is not a simple fix. Many who are in depression, face seasons in which the battle is daily. For them each day can be a fight—a decision--to stay in the game. It is a choice they make, in spite of the dark tunnel in which they find themselves. The painful escalation of whatever situation seems to be closing in and sucking the very life and breath from them. So how can we walk with them to keep them from losing the battle? From making the wrong choice?

When asked about Williams’ mental well-being, over and over his friends and colleagues responded, “I had no idea he was in such despair. I wish I would have known.”

Williams, like many who battle depression, chose to mask his pain—the emotional and mental turmoil—rather than reveal the anguish that penetrated his heart, soul and mind. He used comedy as a therapeutic drug that kept the focus off his personal problems. Make people laugh. Make them think everything is ok. But it wasn’t.

Which brings me to the real point that I think we wish we did not have to face:

Maybe there is a “Robin Williams” sitting at the desk next to me, or standing in the mall beside me, or sitting at the dining room table with me --- masking their pain and turmoil behind a smile or joke. Because too often, in my busyness, I can overlook the obvious often right in front of me.

And so tonight I am humbled to lay aside the questions I cannot settle about brain chemicals or demonic torment and instead whisper an earnest prayer....."Lord, what can I do? How can I step out of my own world and be more astute at recognizing the pain and the needs of those around me?"

And then when I am forced to think of all those who tonight could be tormented about what they did not see and what they did not do, I would add on another part to that prayer....

"Lord, for those family and friends who are going through the ultimate agony of regret, grant them grace and peace. And ultimately may You be the One they run to for strength and courage and hope. Amen."            Image Source:  Wikipedia

Karen Hardin

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Karen Hardin is a seasoned homeschool mom of three, author and literary agent with more than 25 years in the Christian publishing industry. For more information on Karen or to subscribe to her writing and marketing tips blog go to: www.prioritypr.org

Related post:

Is Suicide the Parent’s Fault?

Father backpacking 2512323454_8f249466ef

By Doug Cherry

It felt just a little awkward…

We were in our family worship time this past Wednesday, reading together through Proverbs 4.

With Fathers’ Day coming up soon, we could not help but focus on the first two verses:

Hear, O sons, the instruction of a father, And give attention that you may gain understanding,

  For I give you sound teaching; Do not abandon my instruction.

There we were discussing the value of  Dad’s instruction with Dad sitting right there in the room!  …Especially with Mom and the kids knowing full well Dad’s weaknesses and shortcomings. 

Dads are being bashed and undermined in America like never before and to some extent, rightly so!  There has been much failure in fathering!

But facing the truth of the scripture was so important for our entire family.        

…For Dad, to see the standard set for him. 

…For Mom to see the need to facilitate the important instructions from Dad to children. 

…And for children to open their hearts to receive in spite of the weak vessel that Dad sometimes is.

The reward for listening to Dad is clear: “Understanding and sound teaching.”  The warning likewise: “Do not abandon my instruction.” 

It is no wonder that the instruction coming from fathers is being opposed by every evil force in the heavenlies. 

Would the real fathers please stand up!?

As we discussed Fatherhood, we recognized these roadblocks that are at work to stop the effectiveness of a father:

1)    His own weaknesses.

2)    A societal downgrading of the value of fatherhood.

3)    A spirit of rebellion and lawlessness across the land.

But we did not stop there.  We discovered these clues to tap into the power of Proverbs 4:1-2:

1)    Our vision must be to look past the earthly nature of our fathers to see that a divine flow originates in heaven from God and is sent to pass through fathers to children as a life-giving force.  God can and will use even weak fathers to pour out His instruction if our attitudes are right.

2)    Though almost every human being has some level of “father wound” from mistakes our own fathers have made, we are called to rise above the failures and to lay hold of the victorious life that has been offered to us through the cross.  We must lay aside the imperfect for the perfect.

3)    We must train our boys from a young age to prepare for the days when they will be fathers bringing Godly instruction to their own children.

4)    We can call our fathers up to a higher level of Godliness as we recognize and honor their supernatural calling in the family.

 Image: Alphonso "Achieving Goals" via Flickr Creative Commons
License: Attribution-NonCommercial 2.0 Generic (CC BY-NC 2.0)