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By Lisa Cherry

Such was the expressed feeling of two different moms who contacted me in the last 24 hours. Christian moms who have worked very hard to instill a love for Jesus and a biblical worldview in the lives of their sons. Both went to the cost and sacrifice of providing a Christian based education for their children and yet both boys were in trouble and both moms were reaching out for help.

Mom #1

Her son recently shocked her by coming out of the closet with an openly gay lifestyle. As her world was shattered she was struggling to understand how her son, who still professed a love for God and even still acknowledged that his choices were sinful in the eyes of the Father, could continue along his destructive path.

Mom #2

Her son was exhibiting a much more "minor" problem. He was simply accusing his loving Christian parents of being judgmental when they said he could not attend the secular band with the objectionable lyrics concert. "Why, how can anyone know what is in a person's heart?" he queried. "And besides, who are we to know whether someone with some sexual issues would be kept out of heaven by God?"

Folks, these two cases are not at all unusual. I hear piles of similar stories week after week. But be honest. Were you not tempted to react to mom#1 story with a horrified gasp and mom#2 story with a bored yawn?

Today, I am challenging you to notice the connection between the two stories. Deception is working overtime on our kids' minds and souls. This week, I was studying a recent book by George Barna called Futurecast. His survey of our teens and young twenties was staggering. Only 1% of our kids' generation has a biblical worldview. That means they have adopted a basic Christian set of bible doctrines (not postmodern reasoning) as their foundation for decision making.

1%???

With statistics like that, I am certain many of us could find ourselves in the coming days shouting what mom #1 and mom#2 did! "I thought I knew them....but I didn't!"

Are you confident you know what your children are truly absorbing and believing in our postmodern generation gone haywire? Are you engaging them in meaningful and revealing dialogues that would give you a chance to assess their belief systems? Are you praying over their lives for everything that is in the darkness of their hearts, souls, and minds to be brought to the light so that you and The Lord may help them mature their faith choices?

Or are you simply hoping that what you see on the outside is a good enough show to be real?

I am so proud that mom #2 has correctly identified her conversation with her son as a crisis needing her immediate attention. Right now I guarantee that mom #1 would encourage her to seek The Lord for help NOW....not later!

Please, please take this warning seriously. This blog is filled with back issues that can help equip you in assessing your home. Remember when you are parenting your precious teens that they are the same ones you knew as toddlers waiting for you to make sense out of the world for them! Will you ask Him today for the tools that you will need.....and spend the effort and focus it takes to assist your children?

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This week has been incredibly hectic as we are in our busiest month of travel of the entire ATF tour. So I found myself p-r-e-s-s-i-n-g to get everything done to keep my family comfortable and minimize the disruption on their lives. So i found myself doing hard stuff like grocery shopping at 10:00 pm and cooking chili, vegetable soup, and muffins for 10 all at the same time. I kept my bags packed from last week end hoping the wrinkles will re-fall out when I recycle the clothes to this weekend. So this was not a good week to turn on my kitchen sink and not find any hot water.

Remember, we are the clean people. We wash our dishes and pick up our house right on time! See our Messy House Weirdness HERE.

So.....

After Doug's two attempts at fixing the offending appliance, we are having some family fun here.water heater

Can you hear it now?

Mom, how am I going to take a shower?

Mom, how am I supposed to do these dishes?

Awwww.....some forms of family bonding will require a little more from Mom than others!

Smile, Lisa, smile!

Count it all joy! (James 1)

Use even this to make a family memory!

 

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It’s Family Fun Friday at Frontline Moms.

We have a tradition here at Frontline Moms.  We spend so much of the week unmasking and frontlining and aiming for the remnant, that we need a little dose of Family Fun come Friday!

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I just caught a line of conversation on Facebook that disturbed me. Well meaning Christian friends talking about the recent tragic suicide of Matthew Warren, Pastor Rick Warren's son.

So far in my readings about this terrible event I had only seen heartfelt sorrow for the family and their congregation expressed. But today, I saw a most disturbing other side. A voice of accusation towards the parents and the ministry they represent. Perhaps they neglected him. ......Perhaps they were irresponsible or cruel parents.......Perhaps they wanted fame more than their family.......and my heart was grieved at these words.

Actually those piercing words I read today took me back in time to when the same thoughts of accusation ran through my own mind as well.  I relived instantly the day we discovered a suicide threatening journal in the bedroom of our traumatized, mentally disturbed 15 year old daughter.

As soon as I heard of the Warren family's pain, I was so concerned this would happen. Parental blaming somehow gives us a way to deal with something that seems so senseless and dark and unexplainable.

Suicide is considered the third leading cause of death for today's American teen. And while this young man was no longer a teen his parents had apparently lived under the real threat of suicide since his early teen years.

My heart goes out to his mother right now. Broken, grieving, confused and filled with regrets, she does not need to hear it was all her fault! Because I am certain it wasn't.

Now, Lisa, if you do not know these people personally how can you possibly say that? Because I have come to understand the world of spiritual warfare concerning our children. This was an adult child who made adult choices. Sure his parents made errors. All parents do. But mental illness is a very real and a very complicated emotional/physical/spiritual problem that cannot be simply thrown off as evidence of bad parenting.

I am stopping again and praying for this family. I am also stopping right now and praying for the hundreds of families of teenagers I have met who are battling for their children's lives as well. Would you care to join me?

Perhaps we can take this opportunity to sharpen up our skills at detecting suicide threats in the lives of our children.

Here is a great link to get us started......http://family.custhelp.com/app/answers/list/kw/Suicide/search/1

In this difficult hour to raise teens, we really do need each other! POTTS is our organization to bring you and your family some extra strength and hope. We would love to have the honor of praying specifically for your needs. Click here to send us your requests.

If you are in a battle in your home, please check out our family's resource, Unmask the Predators, that includes the Victory Battle Plan for parents facing a crisis.

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coffin photo courtesy ambergris

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I noticed a couple weeks ago one of my old enemies creeping into my parenting routines. Procrastination. Putting off the tough assignments in life when they make me feel overwhelmed, fearful, sad or confused. But why is it procrastination never buys me anything?! Usually, I end up trying to solve my original issue AND digging out of my extra problem caused by the procrastination. So I end up feeling even more defeated.

Today I thought I would review my top 10 strategies for conquering putting off the important jobs. (Wow, this list helped me already!)

1. Check your morning routines.  How I handle my day right out of the shoot either sets me up for success or failure. Rising quickly at the sound of the alarm. Beginning my day with prayer and time in the Word. Hitting my exercise and shower times. Seems simple, but if I delay the routines, I set myself up for delays a.l.l. d.a.y. l.o.n.g.

2. Do the hardest thing first.  A great strategy taught in the business world works in the home!

3. Make a list and subdivide tasks. My to do lists do not solve my problems, but they do help me identify what I know I need to do and set a strategy for getting them done! Sometimes the hard task can be divided into two or more simpler steps.

4. Declare God's scripture over my situation. Fear and the power of the flesh are defeated by the living active Word of God. (Ephesians 6:17)

5. Just do it. Borrow the marketing phrase from Nike?!

6. Tell someone you are doing it. Now your integrity and your word are your motivator.

7. Smile. An unbelievably simple way to walk in joy. And the joy of Lord is our strength to do hard things. (Nehemiah 8:10)

8. Take His grace and power by faith. God's grace is sufficient for us and His power is perfected in our weakness. (2 Corinthians 12:9) But each must be activated by the Kingdom rule of faith.

9. Celebrate all steps achieved. Marvel at the power of God working in you. Thank Him for the breakthrough.

10. Get back up and try again. When you fall into procrastination once, do NOT use it as an excuse to throw in the towel and keep up the pattern. Pray. Repent. And get up and do 1-9 again. Forgive yourself as He forgives you.

What about you? What strategies have you found helpful?

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We do not talk about the other side of our family's calling very often here on FrontlineMoms. Victory Dream Center is our local mission outreach here in southern Illinois where we assist families who are broken, hungry, wounded, and lost. Here in our region 1 in 4 children suffer from food insecurity. Because of that great need our local body changed its focus and began an aggressive food ministry a couple years ago. In March, we celebrated our first 1,000,000 pounds of food distributed!

Because of our success in effective distribution, we were nominated by the St. Louis Area Foodbank to compete in a national contest for a Wal Mart grant of $20,000! That amount of money would be huge for us funding about a year of food distribution!

WE NEED YOUR HELP!

To win, we need people to vote for us through a Facebook campaign. The 60 agencies of the 190 contestants that receive the most votes in the month of April wins. Each of us may vote once a day for 30 days (must be 18 or older to vote).

WILL YOU HELP US?

Here is how:

1. Go here to vote today.

2. Vote again every day this month.

 

HERE IS HOW YOU CAN HELP US EVEN MORE

1. Forward this post to your friends and ask their help.

2. Share us on Facebook. Go to http://www.facebook.com/victorydreamcenter

3. Invite your friends.  Go to https://www.facebook.com/events/159602370866784/

4. Ask your blogging friends if they would share this contest on their blog.

5. Put this announcement in your church bulletin or bulletin board.

6. Pray for God's favor and provision!

If you have questions, you can contact me at Lisacherry9@aol.com

God bless you for helping children and families!

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