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The "Day of Silence" is scheduled for April 17 this year.

It is an annual event at schools organized by GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network).

I appreciated receiving this educational piece about it this week:

Keep Your Children Home from School on Day of Silence April 17, 2015

If you have children in public schools—or know kids from your church in public schools—you owe it to them to find out what they will be faced with on that day.

This article explains how the "Day of Silence" puts teachers as well as students in what feels like a lose/lose place.

Read the article. And then together let's pray that Christian parents and teachers will be equipped to make Godly responses to this overt attempt to manipulate students.

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We have all had it happen occasionally.

Your young child throws a fit in the grocery checkout line.

Your sibling rivals get into a shouting match in the toy aisle.

Your teenager dons the latest inappropriate fashion trend and shows up at church late enough to cause grand entrance.

And suddenly all eyes are on you. The parent who cannot control his/her child.

Then come the withering looks and sometimes pointed comments, and with them red hot shame.

But what if that feeling was not just occasional jab...but more like a constant source of pain?

As the grandparent of two special needs kids, I am beginning to understand parental embarrassment in a whole new way.

This article by Heather had me practically in tears… in a good way:

To the mean stranger who judged my parenting abilities …thank you

Heather has reframed the issue in a way that changed her outlook.  

She has a particular insight into the hearts of those in the midst of a parenting challenge.

Will you take a moment and let it change your heart as it did mine?

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 Gratefully linked to:  Modest Mondays

 

 

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Yesterday one of my kids suffered a real setback and disappointment.

As I watched him struggle through the pain, I wanted desperately to find a way to fix it. But....that was not to be.

Don't you just hate it when your kids are in pain? Wouldn't you join me in wishing that the problems in this fallen world would not touch those that we love?

As I was carefully selecting what I should say to ease his pain, it struck me the potential weight my words could carry.

Parents, we hold an amazing responsibility in stewarding over our children's young lives.

Our words can frame their world for success and hope....or cut them to failure and despair.

Sometimes in the "big events" like I experienced yesterday we are keenly aware of this power. But what about the everyday moments that are not so monumental?

Today, I am challenging myself to identify key phrases that are too dangerous to ever utter. Here are my first top 3 that come to mind:

3 Things We Should Never Say to Our Kids:

1. You always do…   Watch out for the absolute declarations. Our kids are still in process! God would never say that about us!

2. You never do...   This is a mirror image of number 1. And it is not helpful either!

3. Why can't you be more like your brother/sister?   Comparison is so deadly. Check out 2 Corinthians 10:12.

What would you add to this list?

I love this little article from John Trent that helps us replace those old, bad phrases with words of affirmation that can nourish our kids' hearts.

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I love it when science proves God's word is true. Even in the area of relationships.

One of our frontline moms sent me this article today: (Thanks, Gretchen!)

Science Says Lasting Relationships Come Down To 2 Basic Traits

It is absolutely fantastic. Kindness and generosity are the secrets to lasting love.

Please read this article for yourself and then send it on to your children. This is the kind of training material we need to get to them before they're married!

Here is a list of scriptures that backs up why these researchers found this to be true:

Colossians 3:12   Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.

Ephesians 4:32  Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Proverbs 3:3  Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.

Ephesians 5:28  In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

Ephesians 5:33  However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Proverbs 27:15–16  A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand.

Proverbs 22:9  A generous man will himself be blessed, for he shares his food with the poor.

Proverbs 11:24-25  One man gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds unduly, but comes to poverty. A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.

Luke 6:38  Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."

2 Corinthians 9:6 Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Lisa

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Related post:   Covenant: Romance and Marriage God’s Way


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You may think we don't need to talk about this anymore....

But after my last few weeks speaking to many parents, I am more convinced than ever that the issue of homosexuality is still confusing many kids!

The popular but fallacious idea that homosexuality is inborn and therefore unchangeable is repeated over and over in the media airwaves. Many kids are falling for the lie.

I ran across Laurie Higgins’ great article Homosexuals Admit “Sexual Orientation” Can and Does Change this week. She simply lists many quotes—from LGBT activists— that explain why this lie is being touted as fact...even when there is no reputable scientific explanation.

“Gay” spokespersons portray sexuality as “fluid” and matter of “choice.” They know that “born that way” is a myth, and that does not ultimately serve their agenda.   (Maybe someone should let Lady Gaga know so she can recall her song about it.)

If you are a parent, arm yourself with this information so you will be able to explain things to your children.

If you have older kids, this list could really help them shatter that myth in their own mind. 

At risk here.....our kids could get sucked into a deceptive line of reasoning that threatens to undermine their confidence in God's word.

Lisa

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Related posts:

When a Child is Subtlety Deceived by the ‘Gay’ Love Story

Mom, Would You Love Me if I’m Bisexual?, Part 1

Mom, Would You Love Me If I’m Bisexual, Part 2

Mom, Would You Love Me If I’m Bisexual? Part 3

Would My Response to the Bisexual Question Be Illegal? (Part 4)