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I had to click on this link that claimed to identify these "5 Bad Child Behaviors."

I was curious...and wondering if I would agree with the author's list!

I have to admit...I think he did a good job of identifying the problems.

And I was even thinking the author did a reasonable job of saying we must nip these in the bud early!

But if you are like me, when I have encountered these 5 problems (lying, disrespect of authority, unkind words, aggressive behavior, and laziness)…

 I needed more help!

 I needed the strong love of the Father...

the wisdom of the Holy Spirit...

and the anointing of Jesus.

 Are you facing any of these bad behaviors in one of your children? If so, I want to encourage you today.

Do not give up.

Do not soften and decide the problems are no big deal.

And do not think you are the only Christian parent who has had to battle through the sin nature of your children's flesh.

Parent, God has a solution. Sometimes the solution takes l-o-n-g-e-r than we want it to take.

My best advice? Prayer.

Sincere prayer for guidance, clarity, resolve, and patience to teach and train them up...while still loving them in the midst of their fleshly mess!

Someday you will look back at this problem. (I know. People used to tell me that, and I did not really believe them either!)

It will be in your past....and you will note how God faithfully delivered your family out!

Best regards,


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OK, ladies. This one is for you. Read it and have a good cry.

Have you been looking for a great way to try and explain the earthshaking importance of motherhood to your kids...and you know they only "partly get it?"

We live in a world that normalizes children having children. And single young women having a babies before marriage.

And we as moms know this is a big deal!!

But sometimes we have trouble explaining why.

This woman nailed the explanation.

Read it ...and pass it to a girlfriend who gets it ...or someone who you wish would get it!


Time is running out for my friend.

We are sitting at lunch when she casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of "starting a family."  What she means is that her biological clock has begun its countdown and she is considering the prospect of motherhood.

"We're taking a survey," she says, half jokingly. "Do you think I should have a baby?"

"It will change your life," I say carefully.

"I know," she says. "No more sleeping in on Saturdays, no more spontaneous vacations..."

But that is not what I mean at all.

I look at my friend, trying to decide what to tell her.  I want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes.  I want to tell her that the physical wounds of childbirth heal, but that becoming a mother will leave her with (Read the rest here.)

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I am tired of my 8 year old son being b-o-m-b-a-r-d-e-d with sexual imagery!

I want his biggest concern today to be whether our new puppy was the one who dug the ugly hole in our backyard. (That was his crisis of the morning!)

I want him to be a pre-adolescent innocent kid!

Not someone who has to have an opinion on the rainbow draped White House and Chobani yogurt ads.

Problem is....he is living in the same world that I am and you are. And we know his ears will pick up on the cultural talk.

So here are some helpful ways I have found to give him the childhood he deserves!

1. Get my definitions correct.

Jesus says we should be "innocent as doves but wise as serpents." (Matthew 10:16)

Notice He did not say we should be naive (meaning gullible and easily tricked) or ignorant (meaning uninformed of something you should be warned about.)

In our parenting today, it will be up to us to sort out this important difference!

Miriam Webster online has these definitions of innocence:


a  :  freedom from guilt or sin through being unacquainted with evil :  blamelessness

b  :  chastity

c  :  freedom from legal guilt of a particular crime or offense 

(1)  :  freedom from guile or cunning :  simplicity (2)  :  lack of worldly experience or sophistication

We want our kids to be free because they have no personal experience with evil.

And we want to celebrate their lack of worldly experience or sophistication as good!

2. Remove media as needed.

Every family must make their own decision about the use of television and movies. But make no mistake about it. Every random unsupervised hour of viewing challenges our kids' innocence like nothing else.

3. Go back to having real fun!

Getting dirty in the back yard. Building a fort. Making a horrible mess in the kitchen inventing a cake. Dragging out the picture albums. Playing the board games. 

What if you intentionally turned the hands of the clock back a few years and did not do something electronic! (Warning: you will have more mess to clean up. Hmm. Could that be one reason we allow them to plug into the media stuff anyway? Perhaps as parents we better decide what kind of mess we would really rather have!)

4. Frame… but don't remove human drama.

Some parents in an effort to do #3 and #4 inadvertently sanitized their kids’ world into a state that made them even more curious (and vulnerable) to the television and movie industry! I have watched this in myself and others.

The fact is, we cannot keep our kids in a nursery Winnie the Pooh land. Their own human curiosity will break them out! 

Instead, frame the drama with a biblical perspective.   Start by checking out the Old Testament. It is full of drama and disaster. It is not sweet and sterile and cute. It reveals history in all its flare. Good vs. evil. Obedience vs. rebellion. These are true stories, which according to 1 Corinthians 10:6 & 11, “occurred as examples to keep us from setting our hearts on evil things as they did….These things happened to them as examples and were written down as warnings for us, on whom the fulfillment of the ages has come.”

Over the years I have noticed books can be a real help in this area. But what if you have a child without reading skills or desires?

When Josiah, my eight year old, was five, I got him interested in audio books. I gave him a bucket of Legos and let that imagination of blood and guts and drama be satisfied with classical books of the past. Boy stuff like Robinson Crusoe and Swiss Family Robinson.

5. STOP the your own mind and reject them in others who influence your kids.

I was appalled when I read about the Facebook post by Hillary Clinton affirming a gender-confused child. What could have led him to identify himself as homosexual at such a young age? He needs counseling, prayer, love and truth… not more confusion.

Then I read the outrageous story of the lesbian teacher who intentionally altered kindergarteners view of sexuality!

I have made up my mind these things will not define my kids...(or grandkids!) I will do what it takes to protect them. (Think mama bear here!)

Take an inventory in your kids' lives. Who is in danger of stealing their innocence right now? Who do you need to back them away from???

6. Pray for them every day

In reality....only God will protect my kids from this mess. My job is to pray, trust, and act on the leading of the Holy Spirit.

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Last week's SCOTUS verdict mandating all 50 states to legalize “gay” marriage has shaken the US church. For good reason. We have entered a new era that will alter our nation in many significant ways.

Doug and I are realizing this moment in history is significant not only for our nation...but also for each one of our kids. After spending some time talking with them, I have compiled a list of 10 Things our kids Need to Know Now!

1. God's word, the Bible, is clear on the issue of homosexuality.

The Bible is the best sex education curriculum for our kids! When we read what He said, it opens the door for practical explanations with our kids. If you have not taught your children, now is the time. Even young ones are being systematically indoctrinated to receive homosexuality as normal.  Here are some scripture-based tools to help your discussion:

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Straight Talk In a Sex-Saturated Culture

2. Marriage was not invented by governments, but by God.

Pictures of the White House in rainbow colors and demonstrators in front of the Supreme Court saying "Love Wins" are confusing. These are the highest institutions we teach our kids to honor. We must use this ruling as a teachable moment to explain how our government works....and how it has taken a wrong turn. Marriage was invented by God so government cannot really change it. Click here for a great article by Albert Mohler that explains.

3. Revisionists are people who change ancient documents to match current fad.

Revisionism is a philosophy or belief system. "Revisionism" is at odds with orthodoxy. Right now we are watching the Supreme Court ruling with a progressivism view of revising. We are also watching many modern Christians "revising" the Bible to allow for the new gay theology. They need to know that a "Christian" site found on Google may be revisionist—and thereby heretical.

 4. Homosexual sin can be forgiven and cleansed.

 We must continue to emphasize to our kids that all people—no matter what kind of sin they have committed —are welcome to come to God! He yearns to save and forgive the sin of homosexuality just as He forgives all the other sin problems. Your children's friends may be struggling with same sex attraction. Your child may even be struggling and not telling you! Our testimony of love and welcoming heart is vital right now to our kids.

 5. Deception is rampant and loud in our generation.

It wouldn't be deception if it were not deceiving.

A deceived personby very definitionwould not know it.

Those two facts our children must understand. The views they hear and see on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, television, movies, their friends and their teachers can all be wrong…even if they come from nice people.

 6. Lies have been sown into the young generation's minds that can be confusing.

Let your kids know that the world has changed dramatically in the last few years. Let them know that until just a few years ago homosexuality was not portrayed on prime time. That may shock them for this is all they know.

 7. Just because friends/relatives may embrace the "new normal" our family never will.

Our kids need to hear a clear statement of faith and doctrine from us. They are watching a world that is shifting so quickly that it is incredible. Drop an anchor for them to give them stability in the confusion.

 8. Guard your heart...and ask me any questions you have.

 Son, do not be alarmed when a random thought about homosexuality hits your mind. Daughter, do not be alarmed when you really enjoy spending time with your girlfriend. We are living in a sexually overcharged and perverse culture. The devil is going to throw darts into your mind. Learn to recognize them and block them in Jesus name. And know this, my child...I will answer any question. You will never be rejected and no subject is off limits!

 9. We may experience even more forms of ridicule or persecution.

We may as well prepare ourselves. It is very unlikely that being a Christian who stands for marriage is going to be easy. Our kids know this. And if they are like ours, they are worried about their futures. Reassure them of the faithfulness of our God. Give them hope. But don't sugar coat the truth. They will need courage and preparation to stand in their generation.

 10. This is an exciting time God has called us to live!

We could have been born in grandma's generation. But we weren't. And I am glad! God has put us here for a reason and a purpose to live the adventure of serving Him until He comes back again!


P.S. Daniel King hit the nail on the head with his article 15 Reasons Why the Supreme Court made the Wrong Decision about Homosexual Marriage. We’re talking about it with our kids at dinner tonight.

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Related posts:

Mom, Would You Love Me if I’m Bisexual?, Part 1

When a Child is Subtlety Deceived by the ‘Gay’ Love Story

10 Reasons Why Parents Should be Concerned about the Transgender Children Debate

10 Lies of the Gay Agenda and the Biblical Truths that Counter Them

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Perhaps you have been watching reports about one of the latest teen crazes called Charlie Charlie. 

Christian leaders are jumping in to warn us about this "new game" that many believe can open the door to the occult and witchcraft.  

Others might say it is simply innocuous fun......but are they right?

Are there doorways to darkness that should be avoided?  (See The Forbidden Practice of the Occult)

When these types of teen trends have popped up over the years, we have used them as springboard to deeper discussions in our home.

Questions such as:

 How do we please the Lord in manners of recreation?

Is the demonic realm real?

How about hell and the devil himself?

Today's youth are being bombarded with confusing messages. Teachable moments like these become opportunities to disciple our children in the ways of the Lord.

Here is a list of scriptures to get you started!

THE OCCULT—What does the Bible say about it? 


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