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Were the Pilgrims heroes, or imperialistic opportunists?

Was God leading in the founding of our nation, or was the greed of man?

Were the Founding Fathers self-serving elitists?

Do the stories of the death of Indians prove that we should be ashamed of our American historical roots?

Is the spreading of the gospel a good thing, or an invasion of human rights?

This week we will celebrate Thanksgiving. This holiday traditionally leads our families to thank God not only for His manifold blessings, but also for our nation’s heritage. But many will not be doing either this week.

We are a nation at a crossroads. 

Revisionist historians have worked hard to control this young generation’s views of our nation.....and thereby shift our creeds and our actions. And I think we can all see they appear to be succeeding!

Are you familiar with the bestselling book A People's History of the United States? Howard Zinn wrote it in 1980, and many college and high school students are assigned to read it. It’s a revision of American history based on Marxist ideology, and it riddled with errors. Take a look at Daniel J.Flynn’s article “Howard Zinn's Biased History.

Parents, we cannot leave the teaching of history to the public systems and the media. We must help our children sort through the facts from the false indoctrinations. This week is a prime opportunity. Don't let the story of the Pilgrims die!

Do your kids know the miraculous story about Squanto? We have shared Eric Metaxas’ great book Squanto and the Miracle of Thanksgiving at our table many times.   It is also an ebook.

Here is another great article by the Chuck Colson: The Story of Squanto. It will fill you in on this exciting historical event.

As Christians, we are not interested in sugar coating the people of our past. We know that sin has been a problem in every age! But when we look back, we must acknowledge what our faithful God has done.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Image: Robert Walter Weir "Embarcation of the Pilgrims" via Wikipedia


Gratefully linked to   Making your Home Sing Monday

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Let's face it. When our kids are hurt, struggling or in trouble.... We are in trouble too! Sometimes in small ways and sometimes in big ways!

 Doug and I know what it is like to feel:


We are starting a new effort at Frontline Families and we want you to be in on it.

 It’s our first Parents in Trouble virtual event.  This is a 60 minute webinar for parents which will give you

Practical Help
Relationship Hope
Prayer Support

 There are two choices for you to attend:

Sunday, November 30  

8:00 pm eastern /7:00 pm central  


Thursday, December 4  

8:00 pm eastern/7:00 pm central

When our daughter Kalyn fell into trouble, we lived through an intense battle as parents.

We know you do not need another list of all your mistakes of the past. (You already have those well memorized!)

You need fresh hope and wisdom for going forward!

And you can get this help in the privacy of your own home.

This is a special time for you!

It is free help... open to you and any of your friends who need help.

To register and get your contact information, simply reply to this email.  

We are praying for you, especially during this holiday season!

Lisa and Doug

 P.S. Want to be involved, but not available at these times? Reply to this email and we can help.


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How would you like your kids to use their phones to exchange texts, photos and videos anonymously with random strangers within your community?

Unfortunately, there’s an app for that… in fact, quite a few.

One of our Frontline Moms sent me Kira Lewis’ very helpful post The Worst Apps for Kids

Keeping up with teenagers and their apps can be a daunting task! I loved getting this simple-to-use list.

After all, most parents do not have time to keep up on all the new apps....that are springing up constantly. But rest assured, our kids learn about them very easily.

There are even apps that hide apps, so that parents cannot see what apps their kids have!

Here’s an important key: Get into your kids’ phones’ settings and assign a password so that they will not be able to download any apps without your permission. Kira tells us how to do this in her post.

Image Credit: Caroline “Maddie” via Flickr Creative Commons
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My kids all tried it: Shouting my first name above the noisy crowd in order to get my attention.

Maybe it was kind of cute, the first time. But what if my kids and I were on a first name basis...every day? That is what is being proposed by a growing number of young parents.

We are living in a culture when all issues of authority are suspect. And so we should not be surprised when the idea of "should anyone be in charge here?" come right into our own living rooms.

Something is lost when a child calls his parents by their first names. Instead of honoring his parents, the child holds them on the same level as his peers. So why should he obey them?

Is the traditional biblical view that children should honor their parents (Exodus 20:12) and obey them (Ephesians 6:1) outdated...or oppressive...or even dangerous?

Surely we can take a lesson from both God's word here and from common sense.

Our children are no different than children of other times. They need the security of loving parents who allow them to be kids while they are still kids! They need to know someone older and wiser than them is in charge.

And yes, they need to learn about the relationship between obeying a human parent that they can see and a Heavenly Father who they will one day see.

I know some Christian parents may have blown it be being legalistic and overly authoritarian.

I know some parents may have even abused their children and misused their trust.

And obviously, that is horribly wrong!

But throwing out the whole parental model of leadership in favor of a more "progressive" approach is not going to fix those problems....and in the end, it will trade one problem for another.

We are parents to our children, not peers.

So I suggest we hold fast to “Mom” and “Dad,” and not let our children use our first names.

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I must confess: the first time I read of Brittany Maynard's story, my heart was moved as my mind was also conflicted!

She seemed so sweet and young and pretty.

Her cancer seemed so cruel and unfair.

Her suffering seemed so senseless.

Her solution seemed so....logical.

Surely, I am not the only who had to think again. So that makes me wonder. How will our kids do with this news story?

Will she become a heroine in this generation? Will this story be used as this young woman has said she desired?

Will it become a catalyst to re-write the rules on death and dying issues?

Today the Catholic Ethics committee made it a point to bring their clarification. Perhaps we should follow their lead and have this discussion in our families now.

I liked Joni Eareckson Tada’s article on this issue. Surely as a lifelong quadriplegic, she would have a sensitive yet principled response to the assisted suicide debate.

As we are talking about this case, we must help our children see the importance of allowing biblical values and principles guide our decisions ....rather than emotions and popular opinion.

Here are some important scriptures to consider in our discussions:


Psalm 139:13-16 For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.

Romans 14:7 For none of us lives for ourselves alone, and none of us dies for ourselves alone.

Deut. 30:19-20 This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live that you may love the Lord your God, listen to his voice, and hold fast to him. For the Lord is your life, and he will give you many years in the land he swore to give to your fathers, Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.

Exodus 20:13   “You shall not murder.”  

Proverbs 12:28  In the way of righteousness there is life;
    along that path is immortality.

John 10:10  The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

Job 14:5  A person’s days are determined;
    you have decreed the number of his months
    and have set limits he cannot exceed.

Hebrews 9:27  Just as people are destined to die once, and after that to face judgment.


Image:Colonel John Britt "Nostalgic Grace" via Flickr Creative Commons
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See also:

A Death Discussion with Your Kids, part 2