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Someone sent me this post today:

Deal Breakers: Advice to Unmarried Women (and Daughters)

It was so good I immediately sent it to my unmarried daughters!

Surely one of our greatest concerns as parents is to make sure our daughters do not marry a dangerous man who hurts her ...and our precious grandchildren!

But how do we train them to "see problems" in the men they meet before they become the blinded women who gets sucked into a dysfunctional mess? Surely listening to the women who made this mistake and came back to tell us what they missed might be a good way to learn!

As you read this article, please note what the author clearly states several times. Just because you see one of these weaknesses in your men, does not mean they are abusers. You are looking for patterns and the "deal breaker" big ones that are like alarm bells we should never ignore.

This is a good one to pass on to your friends who are raising daughters. If you are like me, you know too many good Christian women who have been affected by this problem to not speak up to prevent more pain.

Here is another thought. Perhaps you read this list and you become concerned that your own son could be exhibiting these warning signs.  Wow. This article might be your best friend also! Now is the time to get your son the help he needs to resolve anger issues and wrong belief systems!



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Summer is the time for me to refresh myself and review my priorities. Planning is on my agenda and I’m diving right into it.

School is coming soon, so I am asking myself:  

Am I taking care of some of the most important things my children need to know?

Today I am reviewing my list of Ten Things I Teach My Sons about Girls

…and Doug’s list of The Top Ten Things I Want my Daughters to Know about Boys.

Hmmmm. I am glad I looked at these posts again!

Hope they help you also.

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Sexy Little Girls?

Lisa Cherry —  September 20, 2012

By Lisa Cherry

When my friend passed me an article about a new study on the sexiness of six- to nine-year-olds, my ears perked up.

Psychologists at Knox College showed sixty girls sets of  paper dolls, some dressed as “sexy” and others in “trendy but covered up” garb. Then they asked the girls questions.  Which one did they look like?  Which was popular?  Which one did they want to play with?

I’m the mom of a tall-for-her-age, ten-year-old daughter. I have been concerned about my little girl looking like a teeny bopper since she hit the little girl’s department. According to this study, I was right to be concerned.

Should we be surprised that our young girls think they are supposed to be sexy?

Perhaps you may not have time to read through this whole article, so let me give you what I considered the most interesting nugget:

…mothers who reported often using TV and movies as teaching moments about bad behaviors and unrealistic scenarios were much less likely to have daughters who said they looked like the sexy doll. The power of maternal instruction during media viewing may explain why every additional hour of TV- or movie-watching actually decreased the odds by 7 percent that a girl would choose the sexy doll as popular…

Moms, I can see hope here! How about you? Even the researchers see our importance to our little girls.

However, I was intrigued that 100% avoidance of media influence did not appear to be the complete answer. Supervised watching with careful decoding was the best in the researchers' estimation.

Could it be because of the extreme saturation of sex and sexual images in our culture? It would be almost impossible for "complete isolation" if our children are customers at Wal-Mart.

Perhaps some mother-daughter nights should be in our futures? I will not allow my girls to wallow in the pit of the media.

But neither will I allow them to be naive a bout the cultural forces and images trying to steal their innocence.

They need mom's voice! And mom's careful monitoring and instruction.

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