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I was finishing my back-to-school plans this past weekend and decided to take a peek into how I was doing with each of my kids’ sex education.

Hmmm. I think each one of them is due for more conversation time with mom and even as I consider it, I must confess....I sometimes feel nervous!

Now, how could the lady who constantly writes about this issue still feel uncomfortable, you may ask?

I would say for these 5 Reasons ....

1. Sex is a personal issue.

In our sex-saturated culture, I still believe this is true... and should be true! God designed the beauty of sex to be shared only with our spouse. So the sense of embarrassment we feel is only natural. But this should not stop us from talking to our kids!

2. I want my privacy.

I want my kids to know that sex within marriage is GREAT.... but at the same time, I value my personal privacy with my husband. This quandary can, unless I work through it, cause me to keep quiet.

3. I don't want to mess it up.

Sexual values and standards are such a big deal. At the thought of discussing them I feel “performance anxiety.” I want to do this right! And anytime something is making me nervous, I am more prone to procrastination.

4. I am worried that I will violate their innocence.

What would I do if my kids asked a question that I do not know how to answer for their age? What if I give them too much information too soon, or answer it in a way that violates their innocence? Those two questions used to paralyze me with fear.

5. I have to face my own failures from the past.

I am grateful to have arrived at the marriage altar a virgin. But that does not mean I did not make mistakes that I deeply regret! Who wants to hear from your own kids...."but Mom, you did...?" Facing bad memories is never fun. But those memories can either taunt us or motivate us, I figure.

As our kids grow and mature, Doug and I want to be the ones who take the personal effort to talk with our kids! We know it is a matter of life and death!

So....that is why I have learned to carry my anxieties to the Lord and make those conversations happen in spite of my 5 hindrances.

So how about you? Will you join me in updating your sex ed strategies this year?

Come back next time and we will talk about....


Sex Education: 8 keys to talking to your children...even if you are nervous!

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By Lisa Cherry

"'Children Belong to All of Us,' Common Core Promoter Says; Opponents Are 'Tiny Minority' of 'Fringe Voices'."

That was what Paul Reville, an education professor at Harvard and former Massachusetts Secretary of Education, said Friday when talking about the issue of education reform.

 OK. Then I must be one of those "tiny minority of fringe voices!"

 Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from Him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies at the gate. Psalm 127: 3-5

How does that statement from scripture line up with what Mr. Reville proclaimed? Clearly, according to God's Holy Word, my children do not belong to the government or even the "community." They belong first and foremost to God and secondly, they belong to me, their parent.

Frontline parents, we need to take notice here. This growing confusion about our children had best cause us to raise up a voice. In other words, if we truly are a "fringe" (which I do not believe) we had better be a noisy fringe!

The Christian Post reported, "His comment [ Mr. Reville] regarding children is similar to a controversial statement by MSNBC host Melissa Harris-Perry in April. In an ad for MSNBC, she said, 'We have to break through our kind of private idea that kids belong to their parents, or kids belong to their families, and recognize that kids belong to whole communities.'"

Christian parents, I encourage you to evaluate this issue. We must be ready to recognize how this thought process is infiltrating our world around us.

First, we must check ourselves. It is so easy to intermingle our thoughts and ideas with the discussions happening all around us. We acknowledge how valuable community—and even church support—is to our families. We are truly grateful for pastors, doctors, teachers, coaches, and even fellow parents who assist us in raising our kids. But that's just it. They assist us. Not the other way around.

Second, we must check the mindsets of our own kids. Are they believing the humanist lie that they belong to the community? If so, prepare for a stormy ride in your parenting as they view you, their parent, as only one voice of many from which to choose.

Third, we must check the policies and viewpoints of the organizations our family interacts with. Look at rules and regulations carefully. Ask questions. Don't allow policies to subtlety shift without voicing your protest. If we keep quiet, who will speak? By the time the Christian attorneys come in to assist us, it may already be too late.

Fourth, we must check the laws of our land. I was shocked when I did this myself. Are most of us even aware of where our rights have been compromised or when someone is acting outside the law? will probably shock you as it does me.

And by the way, this is not just a problem in the U.S.  Charisma News reported recently that Scotland is moving toward assigning a social worker to every child.

So where does all this child ownership controversy ultimately rest in the public discussion? Does it fall in the sphere of philosophy or religion or economics or politics or even education?

I think the answer to the above question is yes. It falls in all those spheres but that is not all.

This question—not unlike many others—falls right in the hands of us common moms and dads.

Just watch us parents when someone threatens to take our kids. Just watch how we will not lay down like some sort of tiny fringe people who say, "Oh. OK. You can do what you want with my kids." Just watch us and see if we will not throw our bodies in front of a speeding semi and leap into the two story flames.

Am I right here, fellow fringy weak ones??

Am I right to say we will not be quiet?

Please tell me we still have some roar!

Because if there is one scriptural analogy I feel like I can understand, it would be Proverbs 17:12:

Better to meet a bear robbed of her cubs than a fool in his folly.

Sit back and do nothing? Huh uh. Not me. So now you have heard my rant.

God, help us, I pray. We need Your courage and Your wisdom in this hour like never before!

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By Lisa Cherry

Everywhere you look in the news you see that phrase. But if you are like me, the whole issue has seemed so confusing and politically loaded that you have been tempted to ignore it all together and let the experts figure it out.

I think that the Common Core State Standards Initiative, or “Common Core,” as it is often called, could be a big mistake for our children and our nation.

Common Core is explosive, because it represents so many significant issues and so many diverse problems.

I received a question just this past week from one of our readers of Frontline Moms asking for help with this issue. Here is my best way of helping, I think.

I am going to list here the top issues I have heard related to the controversy of Common Core. Then I am going to give you the links of some of the best short pieces I have seen on the issue.

This issue is impacting all our lives, so let's start 2014 informed and courageous!

Top issues relate to Common Core

1. Who is in charge of our kids ultimately? Parents or the state.

2. Who is in charge of education decisions? Parents? State government? Local districts? Federal government?

3. Is the Common Core leading to a controlled national curriculum?

4. Are the objectives of Common Core leading to a "dumbed down" education?

5. Are the objectives really more about moving moral and spiritual boundaries?

6. What about private schools and home schools?

7.  Who is in charge of all this, anyway? And why?

8. Is my state participating? My school?

Here are some of the best articles and videos I have seen

1.  TN Student Speaks Out About Common Core, Teacher Evaluations, and Educational Data

2.  Common Core: The 'State-led' Myth

3. Parents and Educators Against Common Core Standards

4. The Battle Against Common Core Standards

The bottom line:

I am deeply concerned. This move could prove damaging to our families, I believe. I am praying and I am listening for the Holy Spirit's instruction for actions He would have me take.

What are your thoughts as you look at this issue?? I would like to hear from different parts of the country.



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By Lisa Cherry

I heard from several of you concerning our transgender issue in our local university. We are still working on the issue, but......

Now we must consider the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA).  This is a new, very real threat to our families poised in our US Senate. 

Though this is of concern to all Americans, we in Illinois are being asked to address this by the Illinois Family Institute.

“If passed, no public elementary school or small business owner will be permitted to refuse to hire a man masquerading as a woman,” says Laurie Higgins in her post for IFA here.

I am so sad to report that both of our Illinois senators are among the 55 co-sponsors the bill.

Here’s what NBC reported about ENDA:

Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid said Monday that the Senate will vote on a bill to expand gay rights in the workplace before the Thanksgiving holiday.

Sen. Harry Reid says the senate will consider the "Employment Nondiscrimination Act, which would provide work against discrimination on gender identity."

In my post last week I raised the question as to whether our school children would soon be taught by the gender confused among us. I did not know how near we are to seeing this threat realized.

I urge you to contact your elected officials over this critical matter.

We have consulted our state representatives over our local university's policies on allowing a self -proclaimed transgendered male in our women's locker room. The representatives were alarmed and said they were not aware of the problem but believe it must be resolved in the courts of America.

If they didn't even know of the issue, perhaps step one of our solution is to tell others about this move by a radical minority group to invade the privacy and safety of our families!

Are you up to date on this new definition of transgender?  I posted about this here, quoting from the GLAAD Media Reference Guide:

Transgender An umbrella term (adj.) for people whose gender identity and/or gender expression differs from the sex they were assigned at birth. The term may include but is not limited to: transsexuals, cross-dressers and other gender-variant people. Transgender people may identify as female-to-male (FTM) or male-to-female (MTF). Use the descriptive term (transgender, transsexual, cross-dresser, FTM or MTF) preferred by the individual. Transgender people may or may not decide to alter their bodies hormonally and/or surgically.

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By Beth Groh

“Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.”

How many times, as Christian parents, have we clung to Proverbs 22:6?

It offers truth. Assurance. And an admonition that we should be purposeful in how we rear our children.

Who could argue with its wisdom?

Certainly not Adolph Hitler.

Hitler had laser vision on the German youth as he sought to consolidate power, not just in his time, but for generations to follow.

He knew that if he trained children in his worldview—at an early enough age—then they would be loyal for life.

Listen to his chilling words, as recounted in the book, When A Nation Forgets God: 7 Lessons We Must Learn From Nazi Germany, by Erwin W. Lutzer.

“This new Reich will give its youth to no one, but will itself take youth and give to youth its own education and its own upbringing,” Hitler said in one speech.

He once said to parents, “Your child belongs to us already…what are you? You will pass on. Your descendants, however, now stand in a new camp…In a short time they will know nothing else but this new community.”

Bans on homeschooling. Bans on religious education. Rewrites of history in public classrooms. Formation of popular Hitler youth camps.

Hitler didn’t just declare a war on Europe. He declared war on the German family and church.

And he did it by driving a wedge between children, separating them from church and family.

His most effective tool?

German schools.

Public education provided the “gas chambers” for a biblical worldview.

Instead, this Nationalist Socialist dictator fostered and promoted a humanist worldview that, when taken to extremes, led to an evil dehumanization of Jews, the disabled, the mentally ill, the frail and elderly.

German children were taught that they were part of a “pure Aryan race.” Others, particularly Jews, could scarcely be considered human.

For the greater good, the Nationalist Socialists argued, “ethnic cleansing” should be applied to preserve the superior race.

In other words…when man becomes “god,” then man becomes emboldened to make life and death calculations on the value of life. Eugenics becomes logical. Mass extermination acceptable.

“The gas chambers of Auschwitz were the ultimate consequence of the theory that man is nothing but the product of heredity and environment,” wrote Victor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor.

Ultimately, that evil empire collapsed—thanks to the Godly sacrifices of blood and treasure from Americans and countless others.

But have those ideas—and the calculated targeting of the hearts and souls of our youth—disappeared into the dustbins of history?

You be the judge…

Are there powerful voices seeking to control—or eliminate—homeschooling, which is now once again banned in Germany?

Is there a stated “cradle to grave” approach to federal government influence on education?

Does it take parents—or “a village”—to rear a child, according to the government elite?

Is most public school curriculum centered on “God created” view of man or a “molecules-to-man” evolutionary process?

Does public policy support a protection of life in all stages and ages?

No matter how you answer, certainly it’s a leap to conclude that America today is in the same position as Germany in the early 1930s.

But Dr. Lutzer admonishes us not to get too self-righteous by thinking, “Oh, such things could never happen here.”

Instead, we should study history—and our Bibles—always remembering that Proverbs 22:6 can cut both ways. Yes, we can train up our children with a Godly, biblical worldview—or we can relegate our rearing to the government and simply trust that its purpose will always be good, not evil.

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