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Isn't it amazing how life's seasons change? It seems like just yesterday when my sister and I were little girls posing with our Mickey ears in front of Cinderella's castle.

This week Hannah, Rebekah and I have the immense pleasure of traveling with my dad to relive some of those fond memories.

Even as we sat on the plane, bought our Disney passes and hit the Goofy parking lot, I know what my dad was thinking. He wished that his beloved Sandra could be in our traveling crew.

It is hard when life changes. But in each precious decade of our family's journey, we find beauty and hope and joy.

Sandra Josiah 10298647_250972238426366_6292899561379082036_oToday my mom will be enjoying some time with my other children back home. Hopefully she is sharing some laughs and making some quiet memories.

She has made such a graceful adjustment to her new health limitations.  I am so proud of her.

Yet even when she knew she was not up to a trip, she wanted my dad to have a chance to travel. That is evidence of real love.

So here we are. Father and daughter sometimes easily and sometimes clumsily forging a working relationship that will allow us both to enjoy these precious years.

Today in a world that devalues life and shuns weakness, we each have the opportunity to decide what we are going to do with caring for our aging parents. TEarl beach Floridahe New Testament gives us a clue as it reminds us of the commandment with a promise.

Honor your mother and father...that it may go well with you and you may live long upon the earth.  Ephesians 6:2-3 

I don't see an age limit to that command. Do you? So even as the years roll by and we see with greater clarity our own parents' strengths and weaknesses, successes and failures, I encourage you to make room in your heart for a spirit of honor.

Sometimes I hear of the most difficult family stories where a parent was not honorable to a child and the family is left struggling with brokenness. (Such was not the case in my home, so I do not know this pain.)

But no matter what your story, God has a way for you to resolve devastating problems through the power of the blood of Jesus Christ.....even if some relationships are no longer safe to be reconciled. Look for His answers. Seek out His grace and mercy. Do all that the Lord directs.

Here is a powerful resource that I believe can help:  The Tribute and the Promise : How Honoring Your Parents Will Bring a Blessing to Your Life

So right now I am celebrating the joy of caring for the ones who took care of me. And, hey, when it involves a trip to Florida, it is pretty easy to smile!

I am praying today for you and your family relationships with your seniors.

 Blessings, Lisa

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Anti-procrastination Tuesday

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I'm celebrating a bit of good news. The UN made a startling affirmation of traditional family definitions last week.

Please take a look at this article:

UN resolution affirming ‘natural family’ dampens gay pride festivities

It's important when we see so many things shifting in our culture that we pause and thank God every time we see a victory!

Let's recognize that now is not the time to give up!

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Personality clashes. Birth order strife. Jealousy. Selfishness.

Surely your children never display these types of problems.  Right? :)

It seems at our house that while summertime increases our quotient of family fun, it can also increase our quotient of family squabbles. So I figure that as the leader of these day-to-day family operations, it is my job to find ways to minimize our problems.

(Next week we are heading out for our week long family vacation. So, I am going to give this my best shot....and then I would welcome your ideas also!)

1. Balance Free Time with Structure

I love our more relaxed schedule. But it is easy for everyone to get their own individual plans going, and then selfishness sets in. Really, we all do much better with some structure that I communicate clearly early in the day... or even better, the night before.

2. Celebrate the Unique Personalities

My kids seem to take their lead from me. When I am affirming each of my children—even if I am not understanding their preferences very well—then the other children follow my lead better.

3. Ban Unwholesome Words; Require Words of Life

We needed the power of God's word working in our hearts. Ephesians 4:29 has been our memory verse for the last several weeks.

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.  (NIV)

I am pleased to report that this has helped tame the tongues and clearly identify the errors.

4.  Provide Tools

Interpersonal conflicts are a reality of life. I believe spending the time to help siblings learn to effectively resolve their conflicts is a good investment in my future grandchildren's lives. And, I often remind the "warring" parties that learning this skill now will prevent pain in marriage.

5.   Maintain Physical Health Habits

Sloppy eating habits + too many late nights + not enough fluids + too much heat = crankiness.

Sometimes we are caught in conflicts that are really just symptoms of irritation.

6.  Sudden Trip to Dairy Queen

Doug reminded me to include this one. Hey, with this many teens in one house, sometimes we just need to call a truce and provide some sweet distraction! :) 

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In case you haven't noticed, June has been “gay pride month” all over the world. That is why we are seeing so many pro-LGBTQ images and events popping up around us. 

The United States Embassy in Israel flew the “gay pride” rainbow flag with the American Flag.  Also the employees at the embassy marched in a “gay pride” parade carrying both flags.

General MLucky Charmsills produced video clip to promote the “LuckyToBe” campaign, and rolled out two new rainbow marshmallows in their Lucky Charms cereal.

Other events this month include:

The declaration of national support for LGBT Rights by President Obama

An order banning discrimination of  LGBT employees of federal government contractors

"Gay pride" parades

Cinderella_Castle_at_Magic_Kingdom_-_Gay_Day_-_2007 "Gay days" at Disney 

So the question becomes.... What does this matter to me and my family?

There is no question that the issue of homosexuality is the hot issue in the church and the culture today. But I would propose it is also the hottest issue in our families.

Our children are being slowly and systematically brainwashed to be proud....and accepting. Even when God's word has not changed one bit! Are we prepared to handle this pressure in our homes?

This month is a great time to increase the dialogue. Even if you think you have already covered it. Talk together. Pray together. Look at these stories and see what the Lord shows you about what to believe and how to respond.

When I saw the picture of our US flag and the rainbow flag flying together, it broke my heart. Many would claim this is who we have become as a nation.

But a nation is made up of individual families. And as the families who serve God and stand on His word, we must resist any way we can and declare… This is not us!

I wish I knew exactly what resisting means. I don't. But I do know that silence in the wake of increasing darkness permitted disastrous things to go on like the holocaust. 

So I will not remain silent. And my first place to speak must be in my own home with my own family. I must have the courage to build an ark.

No, I am not able to say I am “Gay Proud.” Instead, I am prayerful... and loving... and sad.

If you need help, here are posts and resources.... for you and your family...

Lisa Cherry

Meet Linda: A Transexual Friend Who Was Changed

10 Reasons Why Parents Should be Concerned about the Transgender Children Debate

Is Bisexuality the New Teen “Cool?”

Q: Do You Know What it Stands For?

Mom, Would You Love Me if I’m Bisexual?

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What if we were no longer able to communicate online–or in person—about the very issues threatening our families’ faith?

What if someone or something was policing our communication related to the biblical questions of homosexuality and was given the power to deem that communication "hate speech "?

I have been in many conversations saying that the censorship of Christians is not far away.

So when I saw this article about the Hate Crimes bill being considered in Congress, I was sobered.  Surely we can see the danger here!?

I did not see many talking about this issue which concerned me. In fact, this is the best I found (though I am not really liking the tone the author set in the article very much.)

Surely it would not happen.  Right???

Obviously, I am praying we all jump out in opposition of this bill. But that is not all I am proposing.

I am also proposing that we no longer think we "have all the time in the world" to prepare our families for a season of increased persecution and confusion.

Now is the time to disciple our kids. They must understand God's word lest they be drawn into the confusion.  

Now is the time to address the sensitive issues we cover here on Frontline Moms and Dads  in your small group meetings or Sunday School classes at church. If our people are not well prepared, going "underground" with our message, should that happen, will cause us to lose many people.

I am sobered… ...and committed to do my job well now. How about you?

Here is where to get our free ebook again if you need it:

Straight Talk in a Sex-Saturated Culture: A Quiz for Teens, Tweens, and Parents

--By Lisa Cherry--

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