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Love Dare for Parents 668524_w185By Lisa Cherry

Have you seen it yet??? I am SO excited!

At our POTTS meeting last night, my dear friend Deanna brought in the new book The Love Dare for Parents. I skimmed it last night, and I am ordering it tomorrow!!!

This book is built on the phrases of 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7. It breaks the teaching down to a small chapter and action point for 40 days of love for your child. Also, it includes access to an online free parent assessment.

Wow, this book looks like the beginning of a new day for many relationships. Without the heart of our children turned to us through a relationship of love, our instruction, correction, and even our testimony will be of little effect.

Hey, I'm getting my copy and starting right away. Anyone want to join me?

Message me here in the comments!

This is going to be exciting!

Tough Times with Kids

Lisa Cherry —  June 24, 2013 — 1 Comment

Nathan wheelchair (3)By Lisa Cherry

I am in the car today driving to Mayo Clinic up in Minnesota.

Not how I planned this beautiful day in June, but I am grateful to be here.

Our oldest son Nathan has been suffering from a mystery illness since April and it is past time for some answers. The picture of him in the wheelchair at Disney World on our annual family vacation a couple weeks ago needs to be retired into the archives!

Tough times. It seems in this life none of us are exempt from them.

And when they happen to your kids, they are especially difficult.

Even when your son is 28, married and has three young children of his own, the parent heart is still the same. We want the pain to stop!

How we walk through tough seasons depends so much on us though, does it not?

Through this family trial, I have been drawn back once again to the foundations of my relationship with the Lord.

He is here…walking with us, leading us through this valley to the other side.

I can either rest in that and walk without fear, or look at my circumstances—my current Goliath—and fall into torment. I have come to learn that the choice is mine.

What about you today? Are you walking in His place of trust?

The longer I parent my children, the more I realize I cannot bear their pains for them. That can seem like a helpless position until I realize they each do have a great heavenly Dad who can bear their pain! So the best help I can probably ever be to my kids is to demonstrate a life of confident trust.

So here I sit in my car......enjoying the scenery on a road I never really hope to travel again, singing a little song in my heart KNOWING my God has my son's case well in hand.

(But hey, I sure would appreciate your prayers of agreement also!)

Blessings,

Lisa

failure success streetsigns meZaC80By Lisa Cherry             

My daughter Hannah was at a crossroads.  As high school junior taking her first college course, she wanted to succeed. She had only hours before the final draft of her essay was due.

But no matter how many changes and upgrades she had made, it was not looking good for Hannah's grade.

The teacher did not like her argument that the children’s book King and King depicting homosexual marriage and homosexual kissing should be banned from public school classrooms.

I had emailed the teacher asking for some clarification of her expectations. I did not hear back from her that day.

That is when the most important thing happened in this long drama. Sure, it had been good for Hannah to have to learn to argue and defend her faith views in a hostile environment. It had been good that Hannah had learned to approach her college professor humbly asking for more help to complete the project satisfactorily. But now it was time for the big question.

"Hannah," I began my response to the now crying teen, "What is the worst thing that could happen to you with this assignment?"

"Mom, I could fail it and ruin my first semester in college!" was her impassioned response.

"No Hannah. That is not the worst thing. The worst thing is that you could fail to honor the Lord, cave in under the pressure, and change your views!" I responded.

"Yeah, you are right, I guess," she quietly agreed.

Then I helped her to play out the worst case scenario in her mind. Did you know one of the best ways to defeat fear and walk in courage is to imagine your worst fears and see what the Lord can do even with them?

Here is what we determined was worst case:

Hannah fails the class. Gets a bad grade. Has to take the class over. Pays extra money. Works extra hard. And has to explain to people why she failed freshman English.

OK. None of that would be fun. But if people can die for their faith, couldn’t we endure all those pesky hardships?  They sound like “light and  momentary troubles” by comparison. 

Suddenly, I became keenly aware of the benefits of a little persecution!! We were truly learning to stand on what we had always said we believed to be true!

How about you and your kids? How will you handle the pressures in schools, workplaces, and the community? Do you have the courage to suffer....even just a little for the cause of Christ??

Are you sharing this series with your kids? It is a great training ground. Next time, we will conclude with the teacher's final comments on the paper and....the grade!

Image Source:  Sigurd Decroos

Gratefully linked to  Modest Mondays

You can find the other parts of this series here:

What to Do if Your Christian Child is Persecuted Part 1
What Would You Have Done? Part 2: What to do if Your Christian Child is Persecuted

How Much Should we Intervene? Part 3: What to Do If Your Christian Child is Persecuted

Would My Response Backfire? Part 4: What to Do if Your Christian Child is Persecuted

Studying 2302027163_675bfed1a6By Lisa Cherry

How much should we as parents intervene if our children are suffering persecution for their faith? When our daughter Hannah faced pressure in school from a teacher who disapproved of Hannah's Biblical views on homosexuality and gay marriage, that question came to center stage in our home.

Click here to catch up on the story line.... 

Well, here is what I chose to do for Hannah initially....

I encouraged her to stay in the battle, honor her teacher, and work even harder to fulfill the teacher's requirements. As I listened to the wisdom of the Lord, I sensed this would be a significant faith event that would test our daughter's ability to stand.

In fact, of all my children, Hannah is one of the most impassioned to stand for Biblical values in the midst of a hostile culture. This was, in essence, a test of the multi-year training she had received from the dynamic programs called Lightbearers and Understanding the Times from Summit Ministries.  I posted on these here, and  now count them  as essential for kids of today.

Now as sure as I share with you what I did when Hannah faced this kind of teacher challenge, I must caution you that my answer may not be the right answer for every teen and every family.

The stakes are high when our kids are exposed to teachers and authorities who seem intent on winning a convert to their political/moral/ethical/faith point of view. That is why over 80% of our young people walk away from their faith as they leave our homes!

So, it is right that I was not happy that this teacher seemed more concerned with changing Hannah's views than lining up her grammar! And it could have been right for me to remove her from that pressure if I thought it could crush her or damage her.

But Hannah needed to fight this battle herself, I figured. However, I became keenly aware that without me standing behind her, she could have had a disaster. She was in such a vulnerable spot looking for affirmation from her first college experience. I was sobered.  

She had practiced the reasoning and worked with opposing worldviews and still this was very hard. So she added more and more and more research going way beyond the minimum requirements of the assignment and taking extra submissions to attempt to fix the "problems."

Here is a sample of the teacher's comments (some of which were genuinely helpful) that tipped me over to consider a new action. Hannah received this AFTER she had already made many changes to satisfy the paper requirements. Take a look.

What do you see here? And what would you do next?

Hannah,

You clearly introduce the topic, but the introduction lacks an attention getter.  Your thesis is clear and specific. You make clear points, but the paper lacks actual evidence to support some of those points. You provide one quote about the impact of gender confusion but do not provide any evidence from research to connect reading a book about homosexual characters to gender confusion.  You make some pretty inflammatory claims. For example, you equate a book about a homosexual couple to books about making bombs and taking drugs. A book about a homosexual couple is more like a book about a couple of different races.   Your paper ignores the evidence of the opposing viewpoint.  You cannot simply ignore the evidence and pretend it does not exist. For example, a preponderance of scientific research has found that homosexuality is an inherent trait, not a choice. How will you respond to that evidence.  Teachers introduce and assign books every day that contain ideas that conflict with the personal views or beliefs of parents. For example my son was forced to read Ayn Rand's Atlas Shrugged, which justifies greed and selfishness. It didn't make him selfish or greedy. Exposure to ideas in a classroom do not generally undermine the values one is taught at home. Where is the evidence that it does?  Your paper suggests that teaching tolerance is a bad thing. Why would it be bad for a kindergarten or first grade teacher who has a student who has two dads or two moms in her room to bring this book in to teach tolerance? Tolerance is different from acceptance.  You also cite three different sources that are pretty old (2001, 2005, 2008).  Is the information still relevant and accurate?  These are just some things for you to think about as you make revisions. Essentially, you need to remember you are not preaching to the choir. You are trying to convince an audience that includes people who disagree with you and people who have yet to form an opinion of your viewpoint. Therefore, you must consider their views and beliefs in forming your argument. You have chosen a challenging topic and I commend you for taking on the challenge. I think you have made improvements to the paper, but at points your logic falls apart.

Photo courtesy of MC Quinn

Gratefully linked to Works for Me Wednesday   Encourage One Another   Titus 2sdays

You can find the first two posts in this series here:

What to Do if Your Christian Child is Persecuted Part 1

What Would You Have Done? Part 2: What to do if Your Christian Child is Persecuted

king and king book coverBy Lisa Cherry

Hannah was placed in a very challenging position for a young 17 year old student. Would she stand for Christ and His standards of morality and holiness, or cave into the expectations of her teacher in order to get an A on a writing project?

As I wrote in my last post, my daughter Hannah was asked in her community college English class to write a persuasive essay, and chose to do it on a banned book called King and King. As a story designed for 5-8 year old children, the fiction work portrays a prince who was having trouble selecting a princess to marry when one of the princess' brothers comes on the scene catching his eye.

The two princes fall in love, are seen kissing one another and are named King and King of the kingdom after a royal wedding that made them a "family." Quite a story for our primary students, eh?

Hannah worked dozens of hours formulating a three point persuasive argument in favor of the ban of the book from elementary classrooms that included the ideas that it could contribute to gender confusion in children, lead to homosexual experimentation, and undermine parental leadership in sexual education.  

It became apparent almost immediately that Hannah was in deep water. Her teacher began shooting back comments that Hannah would not be able to adjust unless she altered her viewpoint significantly.

"Mom, I should never have done this paper!" she tearfully lamented. "I don't want to blow my grade point average before I even officially start college!"

So here are today's questions. What should I have done when my daughter faced persecution for her faith?

1. Should I have tried to steer Hannah away from the topic she chose before she ever started writing? Even though all the topics that the teacher offered were controversial, should I have urged her not to pick one of the ones on homosexuality since that is so volatile and "dangerous" now?

2. Should I have helped her appeal for a new topic when it became apparent her teacher was going to intensely attack her viewpoint and possibly grade her lower because of it?

3. Should I have even considered having her drop the class to avoid the problem all together?

4. Should I have called her teacher myself at the first signs of trouble?

What do you think?
What would you have done??

This series of blog posts is designed to get us thinking by using a real live example of persecution toward a Christian child. I want to hear your ideas because we MUST sharpen our leadership if we and our children are to stand strong!

In my next post I will tell you which of those options I chose and why. And then we can discuss whether I did the right thing or not!

Gratefully linked to:  Loving our Children Tuesday

Here's part 1 in case you missed it.