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king and king book coverBy Lisa Cherry

Hannah was placed in a very challenging position for a young 17 year old student. Would she stand for Christ and His standards of morality and holiness, or cave into the expectations of her teacher in order to get an A on a writing project?

As I wrote in my last post, my daughter Hannah was asked in her community college English class to write a persuasive essay, and chose to do it on a banned book called King and King. As a story designed for 5-8 year old children, the fiction work portrays a prince who was having trouble selecting a princess to marry when one of the princess' brothers comes on the scene catching his eye.

The two princes fall in love, are seen kissing one another and are named King and King of the kingdom after a royal wedding that made them a "family." Quite a story for our primary students, eh?

Hannah worked dozens of hours formulating a three point persuasive argument in favor of the ban of the book from elementary classrooms that included the ideas that it could contribute to gender confusion in children, lead to homosexual experimentation, and undermine parental leadership in sexual education.  

It became apparent almost immediately that Hannah was in deep water. Her teacher began shooting back comments that Hannah would not be able to adjust unless she altered her viewpoint significantly.

"Mom, I should never have done this paper!" she tearfully lamented. "I don't want to blow my grade point average before I even officially start college!"

So here are today's questions. What should I have done when my daughter faced persecution for her faith?

1. Should I have tried to steer Hannah away from the topic she chose before she ever started writing? Even though all the topics that the teacher offered were controversial, should I have urged her not to pick one of the ones on homosexuality since that is so volatile and "dangerous" now?

2. Should I have helped her appeal for a new topic when it became apparent her teacher was going to intensely attack her viewpoint and possibly grade her lower because of it?

3. Should I have even considered having her drop the class to avoid the problem all together?

4. Should I have called her teacher myself at the first signs of trouble?

What do you think?
What would you have done??

This series of blog posts is designed to get us thinking by using a real live example of persecution toward a Christian child. I want to hear your ideas because we MUST sharpen our leadership if we and our children are to stand strong!

In my next post I will tell you which of those options I chose and why. And then we can discuss whether I did the right thing or not!

Gratefully linked to:  Loving our Children Tuesday

Here's part 1 in case you missed it.

Kalyn Cherry Waller

By: Kalyn Cherry Waller
 
 
Have you ever had a heated discussion in your home about wardrobe choices? I know in my teen years, clothing became a source of regular disagreements between my parents and me. Often times, it became a downright ugly scene, ending with misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and rebellion mixed all together.
 
Many times there is such a disconnect between a parent's wisdom and a teen's desire to fit in, that common ground is hard to find.
 
If just the word "modesty" brings tension in your home, I encourage you not to give up on the issue. It is a hard topic, filled with sensitivities. But I believe God is able to help you guide your teen through clothing choices and even have the courage to draw the lines where the lines need drawn. I am very thankful my parents did just that!
 
Here is a great resource to help you get the conversation started:
 
http://www.therebelution.com/modestysurvey/

 

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Kalyn Cherry Waller, Waller Family

Losing a baby surely is one of the more difficult experiences of life. As my daughter Kalyn and her husband Adam recently suffered the loss of their preborn baby Kate, our family entered into a journey thru grief (What Esther Kate Taught Her Grammy) that is continuing to draw our hearts closer to the one who is holding our little baby Kate now.

We have been blessed to hear from so many of you as you have prayed and supported us through this season. Today, I am pleased to announce that the Lord is already beginning to use this experience for His own glory. Recently Kalyn began sharing her story, her thoughts and her new experiences with her Heavenly Father on a new blog called Mommy's Heavenly Dream.

Last Friday's post was so helpful for everyone's spiritual walk, I had to share it with you. Wow, our God can take every tragic experience in life and work it together for good!

Perhaps you know someone who is/has suffered a pregnancy loss or is walking through some other sea of grief. This blog could be a real treasure for them. As a mom supporting a grieving family, I am learning so much.

Thanks Kalyn for allowing us to take a peak inside your heart ....... We see the power of Jesus and are so blessed!

The Hands Sustaining Me - The following is an excerpt from my spiritual journal…

March 29, 2013

Waking from a nap with a start, I am disoriented once again, and shaking physically.  I thought from being cold, but probably from the disturbing dreams again. My body feels like lead as I get up and go to pick up Kyla from her crib in the other room.  As I go to feed her lunch my thoughts are interrupted by a word.

Sustain.

It comes to me as my soul feels like it is giving way and my mind is exhausted.

I felt impressed to do a Bible study on the word.  I wanted to find a verse to meditate on where God is described as the sustainer. This is the first one that jumped out: (read the rest HERE)

You can read more about Esther's story

Esther's Story Part One - November 24, 2012 was one of the best days of my life. It was the day we found out we were expecting our second child. Ironically, it was November 24, 2010 we had discovered we were expecting our first daughter, Kyla! We knew this wasn’t coincidence. God was bringing this second child into our family at just the right time and we felt so very blessed. (continue reading. . .)

 Sorry-apology

Using these most important 10 words with your child/teen can both open the door for a new season of relationship as well as usher in a chance to right a wrong parenting leadership course.

Last week as I was speaking to parents in Tampa, I felt to demonstrate to the parents how to properly implement changes in your home after The Lord has convicted you of a parenting error. We were talking about the issue of romance, dating, and relationships and pondering how many of us, at the conclusion of the conference, needed to go home and make some significant adjustments in our leadership. But how can you change when you know your teenager is going to use the "you already said!" argument as to why the new changes would be unfair.

One option would be to "lay down the new laws" and tell the teen they will just have to get used to the new ways.  Another would be to ease in some minor, watered down version of the needed changes so as to not ruffle the teen's feathers. But my best key for those parents was a third option.

Start with sincere humility. Admit and confess your parenting failure both to the Lord and to your family. Take ownership in the error as you ask your child's forgiveness for the wrong leadership direction. Then try saying something like this....

"Son or daughter.......The Lord has convicted me of this error and He is also helping me to gain wisdom for a new direction. I am thinking this may not be an easy change for either of us so please pray for me to choose wisely now."

Perhaps a few more days will pass before it seems prudent to come back for the next step.

"Son, I believe I am seeing some new direction for us now. I am so encouraged how God has answered my prayer to assist you in establishing a healthy foundation for marriage in your future. Here is our next step in that process........"

Then as you lay out the new rule/procedure/law you can hopefully pull your teen onto the same team with you in a quest to seek the Lord's best.

With humility and cleansing comes a greater grace to walk in the Lord's grace. (James 4:6)

Kalyn Cherry Waller

By Lisa Cherry

Such was the expressed feeling of two different moms who contacted me in the last 24 hours. Christian moms who have worked very hard to instill a love for Jesus and a biblical worldview in the lives of their sons. Both went to the cost and sacrifice of providing a Christian based education for their children and yet both boys were in trouble and both moms were reaching out for help.

Mom #1

Her son recently shocked her by coming out of the closet with an openly gay lifestyle. As her world was shattered she was struggling to understand how her son, who still professed a love for God and even still acknowledged that his choices were sinful in the eyes of the Father, could continue along his destructive path.

Mom #2

Her son was exhibiting a much more "minor" problem. He was simply accusing his loving Christian parents of being judgmental when they said he could not attend the secular band with the objectionable lyrics concert. "Why, how can anyone know what is in a person's heart?" he queried. "And besides, who are we to know whether someone with some sexual issues would be kept out of heaven by God?"

Folks, these two cases are not at all unusual. I hear piles of similar stories week after week. But be honest. Were you not tempted to react to mom#1 story with a horrified gasp and mom#2 story with a bored yawn?

Today, I am challenging you to notice the connection between the two stories. Deception is working overtime on our kids' minds and souls. This week, I was studying a recent book by George Barna called Futurecast. His survey of our teens and young twenties was staggering. Only 1% of our kids' generation has a biblical worldview. That means they have adopted a basic Christian set of bible doctrines (not postmodern reasoning) as their foundation for decision making.

1%???

With statistics like that, I am certain many of us could find ourselves in the coming days shouting what mom #1 and mom#2 did! "I thought I knew them....but I didn't!"

Are you confident you know what your children are truly absorbing and believing in our postmodern generation gone haywire? Are you engaging them in meaningful and revealing dialogues that would give you a chance to assess their belief systems? Are you praying over their lives for everything that is in the darkness of their hearts, souls, and minds to be brought to the light so that you and The Lord may help them mature their faith choices?

Or are you simply hoping that what you see on the outside is a good enough show to be real?

I am so proud that mom #2 has correctly identified her conversation with her son as a crisis needing her immediate attention. Right now I guarantee that mom #1 would encourage her to seek The Lord for help NOW....not later!

Please, please take this warning seriously. This blog is filled with back issues that can help equip you in assessing your home. Remember when you are parenting your precious teens that they are the same ones you knew as toddlers waiting for you to make sense out of the world for them! Will you ask Him today for the tools that you will need.....and spend the effort and focus it takes to assist your children?