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The stability of the marital relationship in a family often hinges on the contentment of the two spouses.

Just this week Doug and I had been talking about a yearning desire to take some time this summer to intentionally strengthen our relationship. Over the years, we have discovered we can do that!

We–not circumstances—can decide to grow our marriage under the leadership of the Holy Spirit. And even an excellent marriage can always go higher!

It is amazing to me that after Doug and I had that conversation, the Lord has thrown into my path several resources. Here is one that I got today that was too good not to pass on to my friends and readers.

Spoken from a senior leader, James Dobson, who has weathered many seasons of marriage, I believe his words are worth gold. And his advice about falling in and out of love is so outstanding that I will be reading it to our older kids!

Why is this important? If you are a married Christian parent, you are discipling your children through your marital relationship. Your strong marriage is an example for them.

It’s an integral part of the culture in your home. It shows not only what a marriage should be like, but also what Christ’s relationship is with His church.

Let me know what you think.....

NOTE: Please be advised that the second part of Dr. Dobson's article contains advice for married couples about sex.

Falling Out of Love?

Does your marriage occupy a space somewhere between chronic overcommitment and complete exhaustion? You and your spouse deserve better! Here are some proven ideas for falling back in love and re-igniting a passionate marriage...

Love is More Than a Feeling
by Dr. James Dobson

I met Shirley when we were in college and gradually came to love her. Notice I didn’t say that I “fell in love” with her. That phrase is misleading, making young people believe that falling in love is like tumbling into a ditch. That is not the way it happens. I didn’t fall in love with Shirley...I grew into a close relationship with her. After the first surge of emotion was over, Click here to read the rest of this article

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I need to constantly update my understanding about healthy sexuality.

I recognize that I am raising children in the middle of a sex-saturated, perverse culture. My children will need greater help from me if they are to maintain purity before marriage and commitment after marriage.

This article titled Sex Before Marriage Rewires Your Brain caught my attention.

I believe the information contained in this research-based study will equip us to love our spouses more fully today and to equip our children for the future.

Take a look and see what you think.


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I love it when science proves God's word is true. Even in the area of relationships.

One of our frontline moms sent me this article today: (Thanks, Gretchen!)

Science Says Lasting Relationships Come Down To 2 Basic Traits

It is absolutely fantastic. Kindness and generosity are the secrets to lasting love.

Please read this article for yourself and then send it on to your children. This is the kind of training material we need to get to them before they're married!

Here is a list of scriptures that backs up why these researchers found this to be true:

Colossians 3:12   Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.

Ephesians 4:32  Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Proverbs 3:3  Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.

Ephesians 5:28  In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

Ephesians 5:33  However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Proverbs 27:15–16  A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand.

Proverbs 22:9  A generous man will himself be blessed, for he shares his food with the poor.

Proverbs 11:24-25  One man gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds unduly, but comes to poverty. A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.

Luke 6:38  Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."

2 Corinthians 9:6 Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.


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Are there any non-porn users out there for your child to marry?

That is a question some of my family members and I were recently pondering.

The statistics of the number of young people who are struggling with some level of porn usage are staggering.

So how do we advise our kids to screen potential suitors on the porn usage issue?

What if our own child has, at some time, fallen into a porn pit?

Is there a path of healing that can restore their strength in marriage? Or are they forever damaged?

I appreciated Kristen Clark’s wise advice on this issue. See Should You Date a Man Who Struggles with Porn?

Ignoring a problem can be disastrous. Not helping a young life find hope after failure is tragic.

As parents, we are right in the middle of this tough issue.

Perhaps Kristen’s article would be the great discussion starter you need today with your kids.

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By Lisa Cherry

Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. (Luke 6:45) Surely that scripture was demonstrated last week when the Jars of Clay Christian band leader took to his Twitter feed.

Over a series of three days he caught the attention of the world. After watching a movie on board an airplane, he began to "think out loud" and his thoughts were quite disturbing.

Not only was he throwing off what he saw as the confining boundaries proposed by his evangelical heritage in regards to gay marriage, but while he was at it, he was throwing out the whole idea that morality can and should be found in our Bibles.

Wow. Lucas was the first one I knew personally who caught wind of this story. When Lucas sent me the actual twitter feed, I could not figure out why he sent it. Until I read the multi-day progression and saw what was happening.

Parents, we need to understand that this thought process is happening at epidemic rates in the younger generation. (And from what I am noting, perhaps it is happening at the same rate with our own age peers!)

Take a look at this yourself. Wouldn't it be nice to have a Twitter feed look into our own children's heads? Maybe we best find some ways to get a peek into their thoughts.

That is why I really encourage parents to learn to pull the stories happening in the world around us into the discussion in your own home. That is one of the best ways to check up on how our kids' reason and believe.

Maybe this story would be a great place to start. But get ready. What if you find out your son or daughter believes as our Jars of Clay friend??

Be prayed up and ready. Do not pounce on them if they have been sucked into this common cultural force of deception. You are in the middle of spiritual warfare for the soul of your child! If you find you have a problem, get some wise counsel. They have been taken captive and will need your help. What you say now has great weight.

In fact, if you are suspecting a problem, consider getting a copy of our book Unmask the Predators. At most all of our weekend events, we teach parents the 12 step plan at the end of this book to help them be ready to handle a parent emergency. God is equipping us for this very hour of tough leadership.

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