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What a tough spot for a granddaughter to be in!

This courageous woman is willing to lead a campaign to protect children and teens in our Wal Mart checkout line.....and she is taking on her own family to do it.

Check out this noble campaign launched by the granddaughter of the Hearst executive who founded the popular magazine empire.

As a Christian, she has urged company responsibility to clearly label Cosmopolitan as porn and shelve it as such. I think we should support her efforts.

You can read more here:

Cosmopolitan magazine hammered by Hearst granddaughter, anti-porn group

But be warned. Her description of the types of content in Cosmo is graphic. (And all she did was list the article titles!)

Frontline moms and dads...we do not want our children and their peers reading this stuff!!!

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Are there any non-porn users out there for your child to marry?

That is a question some of my family members and I were recently pondering.

The statistics of the number of young people who are struggling with some level of porn usage are staggering.

So how do we advise our kids to screen potential suitors on the porn usage issue?

What if our own child has, at some time, fallen into a porn pit?

Is there a path of healing that can restore their strength in marriage? Or are they forever damaged?

I appreciated Kristen Clark’s wise advice on this issue. See Should You Date a Man Who Struggles with Porn?

Ignoring a problem can be disastrous. Not helping a young life find hope after failure is tragic.

As parents, we are right in the middle of this tough issue.

Perhaps Kristen’s article would be the great discussion starter you need today with your kids.

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Related posts:

Are You Allowing Porn into your Home?

Signs of Teen Porn Use: Some Are Easy to Miss

Don’t Make These Mistakes When You Discover Your Child Looking at Porn

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It was one day from my beach vantage point that I began contemplating how each of my kids will be entering into a new season this fall…

…simply because they are one year older.

I am keenly aware that back to school time is almost here.

In one sense that is exciting, but I must admit I have loved the opportunity for more relaxed days that allowed me to breathe easier and look at life from some new perspectives.

It was in this pondering posture that I asked myself a question:

"Lisa, what intentional conversations do you need to have with each of your kids as we turn into the new season?"

Many thoughts hit my mind, but five common themes rose to the top of my list.

Please note that as I share these topics you might be tempted to say to yourself, "Lisa, I have already had that talk."

Over the years I have learned an important truth: We parents think we "covered it" but our kids often say they don't remember!

I used to think that was because of selective amnesia. But actually I think it is more because of the phenomenon of growth. They hear a topic at one age....but they need it updated at the next age!

Here is my first of 5 today. As you ponder how to address this issue with each of your kids, I will share with you some thoughts and tools.

And then would you do me a favor? Would you comment back to us about how your conversation went? We can all grow when we share our collective experiences!

Conversation #1: Pornography

Here are some facts about porn:

*The average age of first exposure is 9 or 11, depending on which study you cite.

*Pornographic images in an adolescent brain are considered more addictive than many drugs.

*Nearly 9 out of 10 college age men and one third of college age women report using pornography.

 I am not an expert on this  topic.  So I am going to lean on some friends of mine who have taught me a lot.

Here are your tools:

Free E-Book: Your Brain on Porn

5 Mistakes Parents Make When It Comes to Talking About Porn

When your child is looking at porn

Caution: don’t think you can ignore this topic.  You may think you can insulate your child from porn. I have spoken with many Christian parents who were shocked to find their child was deeply mired in porn use. Even highly alert parents have wept telling how they intended to shield their children from this. 

I challenge you to have another talk with your kids about porn now.

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There are those who have never, ever clicked over to a porn site, bought a porn magazine, or turned off the highway at an ‘adult’ store. 

Others are fighting to establish a beachhead on a whole new way of life, picking through the remains of their porn-broken relationships, and trying to resist that voice that says, “Just one look won’t matter much…”

And there are some who are still living in the secret porn lie.  If that’s you, I want to tell you about the effect it will have on your children…and their children.

I am hearing of this problem all too often.

We want our kids free from the hideous grasp of porn....but what if  the porn obsession originates with the parent generation first?

(And least we make a wrong presumption here, statistics identify the porn issue as a significant female problem also!)

Certainly, the old saying "Do as I say and not what I do" has been thoroughly disproven. You are smarter than that.

Do you think you are somehow successfully hiding your porn problem?  (For now, at least…)

There is a significant scriptural principle at work that says:

 “…whatever you permit on earth will be permitted in heaven.   Matthew 18:18

Know this:  If you are permitting porn in your life, you are permitting in your children’s lives too.

Porn is not just confined to the emotional/mental realm.  It has an effect in the spirit realm itself. 

We are all in a spiritual battle with darkness—our children too!  Our choices and actions affect them spiritually.

When you look at porn, you are yielding to darkness. It is sin. Jesus said that if you sin, you are a slave of sin.  (John 8:34)

Continue in porn, and you are leaving a legacy of slavery for your children.

I don’t believe that is what any of us want!  

If this is a problem in your home, I urge you to fall on your knees, repent, and ask the Lord to forgive and cleanse you…. Then get the help you need to start living porn free.  Do it for your children. 

Covenant Eyes’ post Husbands Who Watch Porn caught my attention. I am sure it is for many of our precious families today. Poke around on their site for other resources to help also.

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