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It was one day from my beach vantage point that I began contemplating how each of my kids will be entering into a new season this fall…

…simply because they are one year older.

I am keenly aware that back to school time is almost here.

In one sense that is exciting, but I must admit I have loved the opportunity for more relaxed days that allowed me to breathe easier and look at life from some new perspectives.

It was in this pondering posture that I asked myself a question:

"Lisa, what intentional conversations do you need to have with each of your kids as we turn into the new season?"

Many thoughts hit my mind, but five common themes rose to the top of my list.

Please note that as I share these topics you might be tempted to say to yourself, "Lisa, I have already had that talk."

Over the years I have learned an important truth: We parents think we "covered it" but our kids often say they don't remember!

I used to think that was because of selective amnesia. But actually I think it is more because of the phenomenon of growth. They hear a topic at one age....but they need it updated at the next age!

Here is my first of 5 today. As you ponder how to address this issue with each of your kids, I will share with you some thoughts and tools.

And then would you do me a favor? Would you comment back to us about how your conversation went? We can all grow when we share our collective experiences!

Conversation #1: Pornography

Here are some facts about porn:

*The average age of first exposure is 9 or 11, depending on which study you cite.

*Pornographic images in an adolescent brain are considered more addictive than many drugs.

*Nearly 9 out of 10 college age men and one third of college age women report using pornography.

 I am not an expert on this  topic.  So I am going to lean on some friends of mine who have taught me a lot.

Here are your tools:

Free E-Book: Your Brain on Porn

5 Mistakes Parents Make When It Comes to Talking About Porn

When your child is looking at porn

Caution: don’t think you can ignore this topic.  You may think you can insulate your child from porn. I have spoken with many Christian parents who were shocked to find their child was deeply mired in porn use. Even highly alert parents have wept telling how they intended to shield their children from this. 

I challenge you to have another talk with your kids about porn now.

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Let’s Thank Google!

Lisa Cherry —  July 2, 2014

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I will take it when we get a piece of good news in the battle to protect our children.

After pressure from Morality in Media about their involvement in pornography, Google sent a notice out to its advertisers announcing its new policy to no longer accept ads that depict graphic sex acts, or link to sites that contain these.

Check out Dawn Hawkins’ article Victory: Google Makes Huge Move to Ban Pornography, and then take just a moment to click the link to thank Google.

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By Lisa Cherry

Your Christian teen could be addicted to porn, and you would not know it. 

It only takes one exposure to set the hook, and he or she (yes, girls too) just can’t stop going back for more and more and more.

Porn is just a click away on your teen’s computer, tablet or smartphone.  It has never been easier for the enemy to ensnare our children in this ungodly and destructive habit.  

This is my fourth year of touring and speaking  to parents at ATF  conferences. A number of Christian parents have come up to speak to me about their own teen’s porn use.  But  only a small percentage of those whose teens are actually using porn have discovered it.  Why?   There are signs, but most parents miss them.

Take a minute to look at Jessica Harris’s article, 5 Signs Your Son or Daughter Might Be Struggling with Porn, and educate yourself.

You might be surprised at some of the unexpected signs of teen porn use.  And while you’re there, subscribe to Covenant Eyes’ Breaking Free Blog so you don’t miss any future posts.  It is an excellent resource for Christian parents who want to remain vigilant in the battle for their children. 

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By Lisa Cherry

Our friends at Covenant Eyes hit a home run with this one!  Click here to read 5 Mistakes Parents Make When It Comes to Talking About Porn.

As we travel and speak with parents…good Christian parents… We find the challenge of pornography to be a common nightmare.

This is an excellent article to help us all in the battle to protect our kids.

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By Lisa Cherry

Anne Marie Miller knows some things about sex and children. 

She wrote about this in her post Three Things You Don’t Know About Your Children and Sex only eight days ago. 

That post has been viewed over 750,000 times.  Yes, in only eight days.  It strikes a note with parents because Anne is speaking very candidly out of her own childhood experience. 

Please read it and take the time to pass it on to a friend who is a parent too.

It’s a sticky subject. You don’t want to face it.

You may be thinking your child is not going to be one of those who will be molested, exposed to pornography, or fall into trouble.

Read Anne’s post anyway. 

It’s time for the kids to go back to school.

It’s time for parents to educate themselves about sex and children. 

And it’s time for parents to start talking to their children about sex.

Note: Anne has written several more posts on this topic here, here, and here.

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