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I had to click on this link that claimed to identify these "5 Bad Child Behaviors."

I was curious...and wondering if I would agree with the author's list!

I have to admit...I think he did a good job of identifying the problems.

And I was even thinking the author did a reasonable job of saying we must nip these in the bud early!

But if you are like me, when I have encountered these 5 problems (lying, disrespect of authority, unkind words, aggressive behavior, and laziness)…

 I needed more help!

 I needed the strong love of the Father...

the wisdom of the Holy Spirit...

and the anointing of Jesus.

 Are you facing any of these bad behaviors in one of your children? If so, I want to encourage you today.

Do not give up.

Do not soften and decide the problems are no big deal.

And do not think you are the only Christian parent who has had to battle through the sin nature of your children's flesh.

Parent, God has a solution. Sometimes the solution takes l-o-n-g-e-r than we want it to take.

My best advice? Prayer.

Sincere prayer for guidance, clarity, resolve, and patience to teach and train them up...while still loving them in the midst of their fleshly mess!

Someday you will look back at this problem. (I know. People used to tell me that, and I did not really believe them either!)

It will be in your past....and you will note how God faithfully delivered your family out!

Best regards,


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Will you set aside five minutes a day for prayer for our nation?

During the month of October, believers all over America will join together in a prayer initiative called Pray 31.

We are participating at our church, and I encourage you to participate with your family too.

We’re using Pray 31: A Month of Prayer for America U.S. Prayer Atlas.

Kirk Cameron believes that America needs prayer! He explains about Pray31 in this one minute video clip. Please take a look.



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I received this letter from a Frontline Mom last week:  (She said I could let you read her letter here.) 

Hello! I'm a homeschooling mom. I have recently been reading and learning about preventing all kinds of danger and abuse of children. I have a question about the subject of grooming. I really would like to be able to spot the difference between grooming behavior and typical close family friendship.

My husband and I believe that our family needs to be close to other Christians outside our family. We are part of both a church and a homeschool group that get together regularly in small groups in members' homes….

How do we grow close friendships with other families while still being confident that our children are safe playing outside our eyesight? How can we be sure our children are safe to play at even our closest friends' houses if we are not there?

A lot of what I read about the grooming process sounds like I cannot even trust my own gut and experience with people.

Thanks for your help!

I think she is asking some great questions, how about you?

Here are some of my best tips I want to give to our friend.

Dear S.:

I so appreciated your heartfelt requests! I think I can understand what you are saying.

Kalyn's sexual abuse totally shook my world. As I worked to recover our family, I thought for a while that the best strategy was to build a big moat around our home and pull up the drawbridge. But somehow that idea did not pan out for me! :)

I quickly discovered that fear, paranoia and hysteria were not helpful parenting motivators...  and were actually causing me to make errors in judgment. So instead, I adopted more reasonable approach. Here are 5 Important Strategies that helped me stay in balance.

1. Learn, learn, learn

Honestly, I did not know what I did not know about predators. I didn't understand that adults, if they are to pick up on the subtle grooming behaviors of predators, need to be saturated in the issue to the point where their senses are sharpened.

Read the stories. Learn the common tactics predators use with children, teens and adults. Learn the facts. And then after you have studied, link up to someone who calls your attention to the issue on a frequent basis, so it keeps the issue sharp in your mind and heart. (I can help you with that here on Frontline Moms and Dads. Start with our book Unmask the Predators. Read our posts and also click here for other websites to continue your education.)

2.  Build a team

One of the best strategies for deterring sexual abuse is to raise the standards in the groups your family frequents. You mention having groups of families who fellowship together. How about having a training meeting in your group? Bringing the issue into the light intentionally will raise the "bar of safety." Responsible, godly adults who study the issue will recognize the danger and then willingly submit to protective policies, because they care about all the children in the group.  No one wants our most vulnerable ones to be in danger of abuse!

Obviously, this is not the total answer.  Predators are known to infiltrate organizations where children are, and they will look for ways to violate your trust.   But when it is known that all the adults are on the lookout for suspicious behavior and everyone has pre-decided to report anything that is truly amiss, there is a degree of deterrence!

3.  Stay alert

In my book Unmask the Predators, chapter 12 is “26 Keys for Protecting Your Child from Sexual Predators.”

Key #2 is: Maintain a Watch List.  Please allow me to explain. In my previous way of thinking before Kalyn’s abuse, I would scan around me and classify people as either safe or dangerous—2 categories. But I understand now that this mindset can get us into trouble.  It can cause us to not to notice certain behaviors we should in a person we have already declared "safe."

Instead, now I am always watching. I just see what I need to see. I am always evaluating. I am NOT always expecting to see a problem. But I do not throw out data. I maintain alertness in accordance with 1 Peter 5:8.

4.  Sacrifice

Learning how to have safe standards in group settings is one thing. But putting them into practice consistently is another! I like the convenience of just putting one teenager in charge of a group of kids. But if I do that, I automatically increase risk to my program. So that means more manpower is required, which means more sacrifice. Sometimes the sacrifice is noise control when we need to leave kids in a room with us because we did not have a safe alternative.

I really appreciate the training programs of the insurance company our church uses. They can equip your group for safety. Check them out here.....and remember they only work with sacrifice!

5.  Pray and rest

Ultimately, only the Lord can carry this burden for us and keep our kids safe. Finding my own place of rest and faith was critical for me. As I maintain safety standards, I am regularly praying...

Lord, I pray that anything hiding in the darkness, You would bring to the light. Help me to see and know what I need to know. Protect our children from wolves in sheep's clothing. I plead the blood of Jesus over them and command every evil thing to stay away. In Jesus' Name!

Now as I pray, I match it with faith. God is at work! And my job is to trust and rest.

I hope those thoughts are some help! Let's stay in this fight for our kids' sake and the sake of a generation.



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Prayers for Justina

Lisa Cherry —  April 10, 2014

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By Lisa Cherry

Perhaps many of you are aware of the current high profile court case out in Massachusetts concerning a teenage girl named Justina Pelletier.

 Lou and Linda Pelletier took their daughter to Boston Children’s Hospital for treatment of gastrointestinal problems in February of 2013.

After a disagreement about her care, Lou tried to have Justina discharged.  The Department of Children and Families took custody and she hasn’t been home since then.

Last month a judge ruled against her parents, and awarded permanent custody to the state.

 Her family says that Justina’s health has deteriorated. Here’s a clip of her Dad and sister speaking to Fox News.

We've been following the development of this case for months and urge others to join the many Christian organizations that are praying for Justina and her family. 

Truly we are living in astounding times in which the concept of parental rights is being threatened. This case, according to several reputable Christian legal commentators, may be important for all our futures.

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By Lisa Cherry

When I saw this article title my jaw dropped:  Why Are So Many Pastors 'Coming Out of the Closet' as Atheists?

But when I read further, I could see more clearly what was going on. This is a case of the devil and his forces capitalizing on those who are weakened.

Frontline Moms and Dads, we need to pray for our pastors. The Invisible Spiritual Culture War is very hard on them and their families! And personal pain in their homes is spilling over to their ability to rightly lead their flock. 

If even the strongest leaders among us are falling into a place of confusion, what about the vulnerability of the youngest and the weakest?

Pastors who deny their faith are of course confusing to their sheep and also dangerous.

Here are 3 quick things we can learn from this sad story:

1. The Devil’s camp is organized.  Sometimes we forget that just like we're working strategies to bring people to Jesus, others are working strategies to lead people to darkness. We best recognize that the enemy has a plan against our  lives—pastors, kids, all of us!

2.  Infused doubt works.  Did God really say…? That was the first great deception in the garden of Eden. Doubt is being flaunted in the airwaves.

3. Wounds are a door to deception.  Family wounds, church conflicts, betrayals, and disappointments… the enemy loves to move our beliefs while we flounder in pain. As parents, we need to recognize our kids’ moments of greatest vulnerability!! I have definitely seen this in our pastors’ home. And I am sobered.

Surely this article gives us great clues as to why only 1% of our kids’ generation has a biblical worldview.  But maybe... we can see our enemy's strategy and gain greater protection.

Protect your kids’ minds with our new book, Not Open: Win the Invisible Spiritual Culture War

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Don’t forget: today—Tuesday, February 18

5:30 to 6:00 p.m.

Not Open Chat/Call

Dial  712-432-1212 and enter the meeting ID: 479-729-692 followed by #

Post questions on our Facebook page: I’m Not Open

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