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By Lisa Cherry

Can a homosexual person change?

If you ask the LGBTQ ...they say no.

If you ask many physicians and counselors....they may say no.

And if you even ask some Christian leaders, they may say no!

But is that what God says about these issues?

Or can He change, deliver and heal?

In this day when the issues of sexuality are dividing our nation and splitting the church, we must venture into these questions with a searching heart. Our children deserve to have some answers!

This week I am going to share with my readers 3 important testimonies from 3 special friends of mine who are living healed and free.

 I encourage you to consider sharing these stories with your family and friends. They may never have heard these kinds of stories.

Please let me be clear. I am in no way wanting to minimize the pain and suffering from those who find themselves trapped in unwanted same sex attraction. Sexual addictions and sexual wounds are amazingly complex.

Yet these problems are not too hard for God. It is so important to offer hope to those who need help!

Our God is mighty. And merciful. And loving. He yearns to pull His children out of the pit of destruction!

I was one of the about 100 people at the meeting reported on in this recent trending story online.

Linda's story needs to be shared.  Will you join me in praying for her as God is opening doors for her to share compassion and hope?

To read her story in more detail or to see her recommended list of resources go to LindaSeiler.com.

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By Lisa Cherry

I know you may be sick of reading about Miley and her recent vulgar performances.  But I had to call this comment by Mona Charen to your attention:

 How many of Cyrus’s young fans will interpret her behavior as a normal part of growing up?

Miley has become a cultural icon.  We need to understand what her influence is producing.

Please click over and read Mona’s article, Why Miley Cyrus Matters.  (Thanks, Mona, for helping us look beyond the obvious problem to the deeper issues.)

And did you notice in this photo who is taking pictures of Miley? 

Another widely popular former child star who has plummeted eagerly into the cultural cesspool is Daniel Radcliffe of Harry Potter fame.

Daniel appeared nude on stage at age 17.  In his films he has portrayed characters who murder and commit graphic same-sex acts, and for this a writer for the AP calls him bold, brave, and daring.

When asked about how his Potter audience might react to his choices, Daniel said:

 “… they grew up with me, and a lot of them are now my age or older. They want to see dark, challenging material as much as anyone else does."

Obviously, I join you in grief that these child stars have been exploited to such depths of depravity.

Parents, realize that even if your children aren’t among their fans, a significant portion of their peers are.  These two are shaping the way their generation thinks.

Will you join me in prayer for Miley, Daniel and all their fans?

Image source: By Joella Marano  Uploaded by MyCanon (Daniel Radcliffe) [CC-BY-SA-2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons

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By Lisa Cherry

Anne Marie Miller knows some things about sex and children. 

She wrote about this in her post Three Things You Don’t Know About Your Children and Sex only eight days ago. 

That post has been viewed over 750,000 times.  Yes, in only eight days.  It strikes a note with parents because Anne is speaking very candidly out of her own childhood experience. 

Please read it and take the time to pass it on to a friend who is a parent too.

It’s a sticky subject. You don’t want to face it.

You may be thinking your child is not going to be one of those who will be molested, exposed to pornography, or fall into trouble.

Read Anne’s post anyway. 

It’s time for the kids to go back to school.

It’s time for parents to educate themselves about sex and children. 

And it’s time for parents to start talking to their children about sex.

Note: Anne has written several more posts on this topic here, here, and here.

Image source: Jeremy Shepherd under Flickr Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 License

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Eye closed

By Lisa Cherry

I used to close my eyes to this.

 The public controversy on “transsexuality” was one issue I thought I did not need to concern myself with.  After all, I was confident my own children would never be involved!  

However, the more I hear of the nature of this debate, the more I realize I have no choice but to be involved with the issue and talk about it in my own home.

Perhaps you took our poll in our last post concerning the recent news story from the school forced to let a gender-confused girl use the boys’ bathroom.   You could pause a moment to take the two question poll now if you missed it.

Here are my top 10 reasons why parents should be concerned about the "transsexual children in school bathrooms" debate:

1. The shock factor on this issue appears to be gone.  How is it that we are no longer alarmed by something that is in direct conflict to God’s word and design?

2. We—and our kids—are beginning to consider this a normal issue. "Normal" In our culture is defined as acceptable.

3. We can't view this as just a California debate. Multiple states  and school districts are now making policies on transgender students--Massachusetts, Colorado, Florida and Maine, to name a few.  (will link to each as follows

4. The federal government – the Department of Justice – has become involved in the issue. Read what happened to the local school that tried to NOT allow a gender confused child free access to bathrooms and locker rooms of his choice!

5. The LGBTQ issue is now being touted as “the new civil rights” movement.  Proponents frequently compare it to racial discrimination.

6. Real issues of gender confusion are no longer recognized and appropriately treated. In the past, the child suffering from gender confusion was encouraged to get help. Now, if one of our children struggled with this problem, they would be encouraged to live their life cross-gendered, or even consider having “sexual reassignment surgery” (SRS) to change their gender. How frightening. And what happens when a transgendered person changes his/her mind

7.  As adults, we might laugh at such outlandish ideas as debating bathroom gender selection. But our kids do not laugh. They think of their friends who struggle with these issues, and they need help to know how to respond.

8. The statistics have changed.....even as God's word has not. Public tide has turned dramatically on the issues of sexuality.  We who stand for the traditional views of biblical marriage and God-ordained sexual identity are in the minority.

9. Voices are being silenced. I am feeling the pressure even on this blog! It feels more and more controversial, frightening, and intimidating to speak up for traditional values. In Massachusetts students can be punished for not affirming or supporting their transgender classmates.      If we quit talking.....How will our kids hear the truth? We must be the candle in the darkness.

10. Spiritual deceptions are causing spiritual blinders. At stake is the recognition of the authority of God's word. He is very clear about sexual behavior and identity issues.   Will our kids listen to the Bible… Or the media… Or their friends…  Or the politicians, or (as we will discuss in the next post)...the pope....or their pediatrician?

So will you join me in opening your eyes to what’s going on in the culture? 

Will you evaluate it carefully in the light of the Word of God, and seek the Lord for wisdom as to how to respond?

Then will you have the courage to open your mouth and discuss this with your teens? 

If you keep silent, realize that they may assume that you, like many in the culture, consider it either a non-issue, or simply “progress.”

Perhaps the articles linked in this post and these 10 points will help you bring up the subject before your teens debate it somewhere else and draw dangerous new conclusions!!!!

Image: Debs via Flickr Creative Commons
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Kids today are saturated with sexual images and misinformation.  Parents, we must impress on them the Biblical truths they need.   Get my free resource, Straight Talk in a Sex-Saturated Culture, and start the conversation in your home today.

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By Lisa Cherry

Such was the expressed feeling of two different moms who contacted me in the last 24 hours. Christian moms who have worked very hard to instill a love for Jesus and a biblical worldview in the lives of their sons. Both went to the cost and sacrifice of providing a Christian based education for their children and yet both boys were in trouble and both moms were reaching out for help.

Mom #1

Her son recently shocked her by coming out of the closet with an openly gay lifestyle. As her world was shattered she was struggling to understand how her son, who still professed a love for God and even still acknowledged that his choices were sinful in the eyes of the Father, could continue along his destructive path.

Mom #2

Her son was exhibiting a much more "minor" problem. He was simply accusing his loving Christian parents of being judgmental when they said he could not attend the secular band with the objectionable lyrics concert. "Why, how can anyone know what is in a person's heart?" he queried. "And besides, who are we to know whether someone with some sexual issues would be kept out of heaven by God?"

Folks, these two cases are not at all unusual. I hear piles of similar stories week after week. But be honest. Were you not tempted to react to mom#1 story with a horrified gasp and mom#2 story with a bored yawn?

Today, I am challenging you to notice the connection between the two stories. Deception is working overtime on our kids' minds and souls. This week, I was studying a recent book by George Barna called Futurecast. His survey of our teens and young twenties was staggering. Only 1% of our kids' generation has a biblical worldview. That means they have adopted a basic Christian set of bible doctrines (not postmodern reasoning) as their foundation for decision making.

1%???

With statistics like that, I am certain many of us could find ourselves in the coming days shouting what mom #1 and mom#2 did! "I thought I knew them....but I didn't!"

Are you confident you know what your children are truly absorbing and believing in our postmodern generation gone haywire? Are you engaging them in meaningful and revealing dialogues that would give you a chance to assess their belief systems? Are you praying over their lives for everything that is in the darkness of their hearts, souls, and minds to be brought to the light so that you and The Lord may help them mature their faith choices?

Or are you simply hoping that what you see on the outside is a good enough show to be real?

I am so proud that mom #2 has correctly identified her conversation with her son as a crisis needing her immediate attention. Right now I guarantee that mom #1 would encourage her to seek The Lord for help NOW....not later!

Please, please take this warning seriously. This blog is filled with back issues that can help equip you in assessing your home. Remember when you are parenting your precious teens that they are the same ones you knew as toddlers waiting for you to make sense out of the world for them! Will you ask Him today for the tools that you will need.....and spend the effort and focus it takes to assist your children?