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Talking with our children about sexuality is sometimes hard. :)  In my last post, I explored the reasons why this important topic is so often avoided or put off.

I have already determined that I am going to talk about it even though it makes me uncomfortable.

My children are precious, and I will not leave them to find their own way about sex with the cultural mess we are facing. How about you?

Here are 8 keys for a successful plan.

 1. Make education your lifestyle rather than an event: The concept of "the big talk" is not realistic. For just as our children do not learn everything they need to know about history from one big talk, they will not learn everything about sexuality in one sitting.  

 2. Read up on the issue yourself: Just this past summer I read two books on Christian sexuality education and our kids. I know I need a continuing education on this topic, so I keep learning!

3. Find good resources for you and your children to share together: Do yourself a favor and put some tools in your hands. Of course, we want those resources to portray a biblical worldview!

4. Read the books aloud together: Let the author say the tough words for you.....but don't just toss the book at your child and leave the room. When the words come out of your mouth, it opens the door for the words to come out of your child's mouth when they have questions or issues.

5. Admit your nervousness: Remember it is okay that you feel nervous! I find it best to let my child know that I am nervous because this is a private topic, not because it is a "bad" topic. Let them know it is okay if they feel a little nervous too! It will put them at ease.

6. Do not demand eye contact: Young teens especially are self-conscious. It is all right if they do not make eye contact in these discussions or if they giggle or sigh. Let them deal with embarrassment their own way without reproving them. Sometimes a discussion in the car is good with all eyes facing forward. 

7. Use natural teachable moments: Daily life will give you a myriad of discussion starters. Use both the positive and the negative images around you to open the conversation lines. The more you do this, the more natural this will be. 

8. Read the Bible aloud: Do you realize how much of the Bible deals in one way or another with the issue of sexuality? Let the scriptures you read as a family lead you into teachable moments. Don't skip over the texts that are there to help us. (Try Proverbs 5 and you will see what I mean!)

When I talk about this list of suggestions with parents, I usually hear three common questions:

  1. What books and resources do you recommend?
  2. What should I tell my kids at what age?
  3. Which parent should talk about which issues with the kids?

 So those are the questions I am working on next........

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Whips and chains are not God's view of healthy sexuality. I am sure we can all agree.

But when the new video portrayal of the massively popular Fifty Shades of Gray  hits the airwaves, that is exactly what will be sold to the younger generation.

Charisma News wrote about this here, and Melissa Jenna blogged on it here.

I don't even want the trailer... let alone the movie!

With all the "empowerment of women" that is emphasized in our supposedly sexually modern culture, it is shocking to me that this image could prevail.

But why should I be surprised? For truly sexual immorality victimizes the hearts of women and men.

So what do we do? Will this imagery seep close to our children? If so, we had better make a strong clarifying statement!

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Summer is the time for me to refresh myself and review my priorities. Planning is on my agenda and I’m diving right into it.

School is coming soon, so I am asking myself:  

Am I taking care of some of the most important things my children need to know?

Today I am reviewing my list of Ten Things I Teach My Sons about Girls

…and Doug’s list of The Top Ten Things I Want my Daughters to Know about Boys.

Hmmmm. I am glad I looked at these posts again!

Hope they help you also.

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I am so tired of having to write about this crazy stuff.

But once again, I realize I am going to have to explain another sick idea to my kids.

Not that they don't already know that the world is running amuck.

I agree with Jennifer LeClaire’s diagnosis in her article Can We Pray the Polyamory Away?   Our only real hope is to pray this stuff away.

“It's not only about setting the captives free,” she concludes, “it's about protecting the next generation of young minds the media is molding.”

But in the meantime, turn over to 1 Corinthians 7:2 and 1 Timothy 3:2.  Read them together and then go ahead and explain the word that the networks are throwing at us.

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I didn't really want to read the article that a friend forwarded to me.  But I am very glad I did.

As I read Matt Barber’s The Left's Push for Adult-Child Sex and the cited research, I was able to remember afresh why I must stay alert for my sons.... and my daughters.

Parents, we must be aware that our children are growing up in a culture in which some are openly affirming and practicing child rape, euphemistically calling it “intergenerational sex.”  #ImNotOpen to this!

The politically correct climate of homosexual rights has tried to mask the danger that is right in front of our eyes.

So my recommendation?  

Dare to read the article. Pray for your family. Listen to the Holy Spirit for wisdom in leading and protecting your own children.

And insist on proper protections in every place your child frequents. It is that serious.

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