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If you have teenagers in your life that you care about who are attempting to navigate this ridiculous culture,then you should read Reggie Osborne's She Only Said “Yes” Once.

Warning: there are some strong words and sexual terms in this post. But no less than what almost all of our kids are being exposed to on a regular basis!

This author makes a good attempt at explaining what's really happening in our kids' world.

I often hear from parents who have been shocked to discover their children's sexual behaviors.

Many of these are good Christian people who truly believed their children would make wiser choices.

Many of these parents are devastated and left discouraged and overwhelmed.

This is a great time to remind all of us to step into this discussion with our children. Now.

Here is a great quote to encourage you to read further:

One generation…two generations, have grown up in a culture where sex means practically nothing on TV and media, and so they’ve actually embraced the idea that it means nothing in real life!  They’ve heard the message and believed it:  “Sex is no big deal”.  They feel totally inadequate and unfulfilled if they aren’t having it.

And we have done such a good job teaching that message, that now 1 in 5 women who attend college for four years say they’ve been sexually assaulted.  Or is it 1 in 7, like the authors of the study tried to clarify in TIME Magazine?  Am I supposed to feel better about 1 in 7, as opposed to 1 in 5?  Is that supposed to comfort me?

Read the full article here.

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See these related posts:

Sex Education: 8 keys to talking to your children

Talking to Kids about Sex: 5 Reasons It Can be Hard

Sex and Your Children: What You Don’t Know

Is Marriage Optional for Our Kids?

The Sex Ed Book List I Promised

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"You can't think about it. You just have to do it. You said you were gonna do it. Like I don't get why you aren't," Michelle Carter allegedly texted to Conrad Roy III.

It was the day he parked his truck outside a Fairhaven, Massachusetts Kmart and killed himself through carbon monoxide poisoning.

Those were words from a 17-year-old girl friend to an 18-year-old boyfriend!! What a terrible tragedy.

What can we as parents learn from this?

Something we already knew:

The power of words to influence…

…and the power of a wrong association.

As our kids are beginning this new school year and encountering new relationships, it is critical that we mentor them to wisely choose their associates and guard their hearts from deceptive and evil words.

Many questions remain in this particular case. But one thing is very clear. This young man should have walked away from this girl.

I have 2 tools to offer you today as we pray for all those involved in this case:

  1. Here are some great scriptures to use as you sit down and talk about this story with your own kids. 

Proverbs 7:6-27

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21

Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Proverbs 12:18

He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm. Proverbs 13:20

A righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray. Proverbs 12:26

Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character."   1 Corinthians 15:33

 

  1. Here are four of our posts on suicide:

Is Suicide the Parent’s Fault?

A Death Discussion with Your Kids

A Death Discussion with Your Kids, part 2

Suicide: Are We Missing the Point?

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The "Day of Silence" is scheduled for April 17 this year.

It is an annual event at schools organized by GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network).

I appreciated receiving this educational piece about it this week:

Keep Your Children Home from School on Day of Silence April 17, 2015

If you have children in public schools—or know kids from your church in public schools—you owe it to them to find out what they will be faced with on that day.

This article explains how the "Day of Silence" puts teachers as well as students in what feels like a lose/lose place.

Read the article. And then together let's pray that Christian parents and teachers will be equipped to make Godly responses to this overt attempt to manipulate students.

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Lee Strobel is raising an important question. Take a quick look at this article and see what you think:

New Poll Reveals a Generational Gap in Relationships with Fathers and Struggles With Faith: Are They Connected?

We could read this report and feel overwhelming discouragement. But I would encourage another response.

Perhaps strengthening our fathers in their roles can have major impact on the faith decline of our kids' generation!

Perhaps mending broken relationships can have eternal implications.

Perhaps it is not too late!

For some of us reading this post, we will want to hug our husbands and do all we can to help them succeed in their God given role.

But for others of us, we are starkly aware of the father pain or father absence that is already hindering our children's lives.

We will need the Lord's intervention to make up what man cannot easily fix. (And our God is able to do just that!)

Today will you join me in prayer? As we continue to ask God to heal our land, let’s also ask him to heal our dads.

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May I offer you a simple suggestion from a mom who has launched several teens into adulthood....but still has 5 teens and tweens in the house?

Make them sleep!

Sleep is a remarkable mood regulator and tension reliever. We all know that. Just let us parents get a little sleep deprived....and, well, we don’t want to go there!

But teenagers have so much to do at night that they just...can't...seem...to....get....to ....bed....!

Do you know what I mean?

I find this to be a battle I am constantly fighting on behalf of my teens.

They need my help to prioritize and get to bed. In fact, they sometimes need my help now more than when they were little!

I am not saying we should nag. (But then again nagging might be preferable to letting them get so sleep deprived that their behavior falls apart and they feel helpless!)

But I am saying that sleep health requires adult help at this age.

And since I am in the middle of this stage....helpful ideas are always appreciated!

See Mayo Clinic’s article: Teen sleep: Why is your teen so tired?

Lisa

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